If you ask someone what they find attractive in the opposite s*x, chances are, the answer won’t just be about looks. Let’s be honest—attraction isn’t just about a sharp jawline or great hair (though, sure, those don’t hurt). Sometimes, the most swoon-worthy qualities come from the little things people do every day.
When someone online asked, “Ladies, what are some non-sexual things men do that are a mega turn-on?” the responses came pouring in. Women are sharing the small but meaningful actions that make a man stand out—from simple acts of kindness to being a great listener. Keep reading to see what really makes hearts flutter beyond physical appearance. Who knows? You might just pick up a tip or two to impress your special someone!
#1
People like to talk about, how ‘women love bad boys’ etc, but honestly, there’s nothing sexier than a guy who is a genuinely good person.
Not someone who is trying to appear like a ‘nice guy’ or someone who is worried about being perceived as good, but someone who genuinely cares deeply about doing the right thing.
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#2
Remember random stories I tell and/or notice things about me (what I like/don’t like, etc) without my directly telling you the info.
On my first date with the man who became my husband, I told some random stories from my childhood. On our second date, he brought up one of them and asked a follow-up question.
I was blown away. He listened AND thought about it? Made me feel valued and heard.
Women LOVE when you pay attention to who they are as a person.
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#3
Awareness combined with handling things without being asked. A guy that can see what needs done & just does it w/o complaining makes me want to give him all the things.
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#4
Show a little vulnerability without being embarrassed.
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#5
Laughter is the best medicine. A man who can make you laugh until your sides hurt is a keeper.
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#6
1. Gentle
Admittedly men are quite strong and can sometimes come off as a bull in a China shop. When a man is considerate and gentle, it genuinely makes my heart melt. Like men being very careful with delicate beings and objects like babies and kittens. Gentle affection from a man is god-tier. Combing your hair, caressing of the face, massages, helping you button something, hugs. Love itt
2. Hobby
When a man has hobbies he takes pride in, especially a bit niche ones, I find him so so attractive. When they explain their hobby or show me their crafts- omggg. I get to see how passionate they are about it it gives me butterflies. Seeing a guy so excited is so precious.
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#7
Looking after me while I was sick with a fever and fussing over me until I was well again.
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#8
“I just saw that in a store and thought you might like it so i got it for you”.
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#9
The spontaneous kiss on the neck without the implication that they are fishing for more.
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#10
Not adding more mental load to me. If they see something needing done they don’t ask me if it needs to be done, they just do it.
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#11
My ex boyfriend/childhood sweetheart snuck out of his house, and walked 3 miles to the local science museum, bought a ticket with half his 3rd grade life savings, attempted to purchase the *pink prince Rupert glass droplet earrings with the other half of his savings for the year, found out they ran out of the pink ones, karen-ed his way to the equivalent of the CEO of the museum to demand they restock the pink ones ASAP because my birthday was in a month, and ended up, of course, having his parents called on him to pick him up after getting a glassworking lesson and making a custom, barbie pink set for me instead of the normal hot pink.
This stunt was entirely because my mom insisted I get the orange earrings to match my complexion, but he knew that I needed the pink for my personality at the end of a nerdy kid science playdate. Mind you, this is a 10yo boy who is disgusted by romance at this point. He did this all in the name of autistic rules of friendship.
He dumped me in highschool after his dad took away his autism & PTSD meds, in which he decided to self medicate with m**h as a last resort and not involve me.
When he had $10 to his name, he figured out how to give me $20.
Dude, if you see this, I still wear those earrings. I hope, wherever you are, that you are loved.
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#12
Being considerate and thoughtful.
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#13
Intelligence.
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#14
Being enthusiastic about a favorite thing or hobby. It’s cute when you guys light up and are genuinely happy and enjoying yourself.
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#15
My bf literally was cleaning up the yard and brought me some of the wildflowers from around the yard. It was just a sweet simple gesture. It was thoughtful.
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#16
When they take a break from acting stoic and are silly and playful instead.
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#17
Reading books for pleasure!
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#18
Quiet confidence.
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#19
Being gentle. Truly wants me to be fine and not to hurt my Feelings. Helping Others. Standing up for those less privileged, speaking up, being a true ally ❤️.
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#20
When he pays attention and puts in effort.
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#21
When they’re gentle. Gentle-men.
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#22
TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES. and putting the socks in the hamper.
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#23
Loving his kids/pets dearly. Emotional intelligence. Talking about our future together and looking forward to it (once we’re committed to each other, not in the beginning). Wanting to cuddle without the expectation of s*x. Speaking out about social injustices. A straight man that defends another man who is being picked on (like gay men/trans people) is just… wow. What a man.
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#24
Being thoughtful / caring, like putting their hands on corners when we pass by to make sure we don’t get hurt, noticing things, making sure we are, and feel safe all the time (not just texting but also like offering to order a taxi or give us a ride).
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#25
Thinking ahead and planning in anticipation of something.
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#26
The waist grab never ever ever gets old.
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#27
Being a good dancer, playing a musical instrument.
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#28
Reverse parking with one arm.
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#29
Get me food after a long day without me asking for it or drive to wherever I am simply because ‘he wants to see me’ or ‘misses me’. Another thing I love is the fact that my boyfriend will send me pictures of random things he does/saw throughout the day. Like how heartwarming that you thought of me throughout the day 😭 COME HEREE!!
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#30
Said this many times before. Cooking real food. I dont care about instant ramen or a boiled egg. But if i see a guy cooking a proper dish and knows what hes doing, its very hot.
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#31
I have an ex who could call any customer service line usually about extra fees/messed up charges and calmly tell them exactly what he wanted done and usually got additional services/perks too. It was hot.
Got an apartment to completely resurface the bathtub/shower in on of our bathrooms because it was slightly discolored when we moved in. Cable installation fees waved and a free month when they still charged it, etc.
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#32
Dont talk about s*x.
Tbh i think it is a big turn on when he is just able to wait until i am ready to get intimate without talking about it beforehand all the time.
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#33
Do the dishes .
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#34
Being protective.
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#35
When a guy told me he had a Goodreads account I immediately texted two of my closest friends that I thought I found my soulmate
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#36
When my man talks to me in his I-just-woke-up, deep, raspy voice ♥️.
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#37
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1). By intelligence of course I mean, quantifiably and demonstrably so. None of the red-pill, low-quality discourse nonsense. Being articulate in thought and expression is a rarity these days which is to be expected given the visual media slops being forcefed to us in the name of short form content. So, yeah.. And not just in men but people generally.
2). I love laughing and rarely, if ever, do I take myself so seriously. I love to laugh. I will find the humour in any and every single thing… It is what it is. People who can find the humour in life’s many MANY absurdities have my heart.
3). I am in awe of people who are capable of whipping up greatness in the kitchen. They’re nothing short of alchemists I tell ya!
4). Being responsible.
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#38
Doing things without having to be asked. Simple mundane house chores. No one wants to be with an adult child. Mummy isn’t here to pick up your s**t and I shouldn’t have to ask you. Sweeping once in a while, help clean the dishes, cook. Stuff like that, it really makes a huge difference and mentally just lifts a load off.
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#39
A good friend sneaked out of his job at 5AM to change my tire on the side of the road but he had just looked up a quick tutorial for the first time and finished the job in 10 minutes. he was dressed formally and when he rolled up his sleeves to get to work i just goddddd.
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#40
This will probably sound a bit weird, if not immature, but I love just listening to him talk. Talk about so much stuff. The majority of what he talks about is interesting to me, and it involves everything from music to d***s to religion to other ancient cultures who inadvertently contributed to the bible as we know it today, etc. and I’m not a religious person. But our nights together generally consist of sitting on the patio talking for hours while smoking w**d, followed by laying in bed watching music videos and playing around with each others bodies. It all leads to mind-blowing s*x, and the reminder that it’s even better in your 40’s than it was in your 20’s!
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#41
Rolling their sleeves up to their elbows when they’re wearing a dress shirt.
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#42
Manual labor 😩 working on a car, building something, etc.
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#43
He buys me choclate EVERY PERIOD he hasn’t missed one and has memorized my schedule.
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#44
This may sound stupid, but when they’re good at catching. You throw something at them, and they catch it so casually, with minimal effort.😅.
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#45
When a man smiles or laughs.
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#46
When they put one arm behind the passenger seat and reverse the car omg.
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#47
When they look after their bodies.
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#48
Cooking.
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#49
After shower – when they run their fingers through their wet/damp hair.
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#50
When talks about his passions and when he solves math problems like they’re nothing.
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