We all get the opportunity to decide what kind of life we want to live. From the places we live in, to which jobs we do, to how many (if any at all) kids we have—most of these choices are ours to make, at least to some extent.
And all of them come with both advantages and challenges. Today, we’re going to focus on one in particular—choosing to be child-free. From perks like freedom to the cons of struggling, relating to people, and even being judged by them, we talk about about all of them. So, let’s dive in and explore more, shall we?
#1
I never liked kids when I was a kid. I never liked kids when I was a teen. I never liked kids when I was a an adult. I never liked kids when I was mature. And I never liked kids when I was old. I just never liked kids. So why would I want what I don’t like?
It feels glorious. Everytime I see screeching ferals on the bus, giving the parents a headache, I think how glad I am I dodged that bullet!
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#2
The peace and quiet.
The undisturbed sleep.
That my life won’t ever revolve around another human being that is dependent on me.
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#3
Being alone. I am a very introverted person, ideally social interactions only make up about 10-30% of my day maximum, and I can spend the rest alone/not interacting with anyone. The more my boundaries get extended, the more uncomfortable, stressed, and anxious I become. Having to spend 80% of my day with a little kid to make sure their social and physical needs are met would be a *nightmare*. I’d have one meltdown after the other.
#4
To me it’s so many things I can’t even begin to decide on one factor.
Not having to worry so much about money.
Having time to relax.
Being able to sleep in and take naps.
When I put things down, they stay where I put them.
Less stress.
Not fearing when a school is shut down because of a gun/bomb threat that my child is going to be hurt.
Not stressing about the world my child would be inheriting.
Not being trapped at home, not having to leave the job I like for one that’s more flexible with childcare, not being stuck for the sake of my kids.
That’s just a quick summery. I could probably write a book if I wold like.
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#5
The fact that I can travel anywhere I want, whenever I want.
The fact that I get to spend my money on things I love in general and not having to spend a dime on stupid s**t a kid would require.
Also I absolutely 𝐋𝐎𝐕𝐄 all the silence and free time CF life provides.
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#6
Peace of mind. I’m autistic and the constant sound of a child screeching, babbling, crying, etc etc etc. would be enough to give me a permanent meltdown. That’s before even factoring in all the hitting, biting, and s******g they do. No f*****g thank you to any of that.
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#7
My life is MINE to live as I please 24/7. Not controlled by anyone else for 18+ years
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#8
I was going to go into the office today but I’ve just come on my period so I decided to lay in and have a coffee. I’m WFH now in my PJs with no pressure to get up and get a child ready to get to school. BLISS!
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#9
Not having to relive childhood traumas and hardships via my kids.
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#10
Blissful silence.
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#11
It’s a trade-off. I’m not merely child-free, but SO-free.
It’s certainly lonelier, though not necessarily lonely
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#12
At family events I’m the last to be considered/accommodated. I’m more of an accessory.
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#13
Our small and very quiet home, going to bed early, and spontaneous climbing trips on weekends. ❤️.
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#14
The older you get, especially as you reach your 30’s or even 40’s, the harder it becomes to relate with people because most of them end up having kids.
Also, this is both an upside and a downside, but not following the life script almost everyone is following can be a bit alienating and also you have to take more responsibility for your happiness and finding your life goal. It comes with more freedom (hence why it’s an upside), but you also have to figure out your own path… which is not always easy.
Finally a lot of social activities for people over 30 are geared towards parents. So again, you can feel like an outcast to some extent.
Still all very worth it though.
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#15
As an ER nurse, I’m worried about finding a reliable medical power of attorney. My husband is mine now, but it’s likely our health will deteriorate around the same time, and that he’ll die first. I need someone younger than me who will find me a good nursing home and enforce my DNR.
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#16
There are three downsides.
Insults. The childfree are called “selfish,” “childless cat ladies,” “bitter,” not fulfilling the functions of a walking uterus, etc.
Pressure. Especially from parents who will not accept that their relatives, coworkers, and friends are childfree and constantly badger them.
Threats, a type of pressure. Loneliness in old age and yadda.
Other than that, none!
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#17
Time! your own personal time. Life is too short anyway. I want to have time for my significant other, for my parents, for my friends, for resting, for my travels and for my contemplating the world when I want to.
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#18
Not contributing to overpopulation on this planet. More time for fun activities!
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#19
I have Bipolar and don’t want to bring a child into the world that may suffer as I did. Being child-free is phenomenal. Thanks for asking. I have 2 cats and a husband that I love very much. I feel my life is full.
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#20
Sleeping. Traveling whenever I want. Saving all of my money. Keeping my eardrums intact. Maintaining bodily autonomy. Having nice home furnishings without having to be hyper aware when a kid is near them. Not having to feel guilty if I’m not enjoying having them.
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#21
my money goes to me.
2. Seater. Vehicles.
you don’t run on their schedual.
random things aren’t sticky.
quiet time. All the quiet time you need.
body not ruined.
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#22
I am a very spontaneous person and having kids would make that impossible. Most of the time I don’t have plans for the weekends so I wake up and decide that I’m going to drive 3 hours to go hiking somewhere new, or go shopping, go to my sister’s and I don’t have to get anyone else ready, make sure they had a nap, snacks toys, etc. Plus I have a lot of extra money to spend on myself and no one else
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#23
I can try things, without putting anyone’s wellbeing at risk except mine.
Quit my job and switch fields? Move across states? Totally fine, whenever I want to.
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#24
Coming home from work to some peace and quiet for a nap. Not being asked “why?” 4 million times a week. Get up as early or late as I want on a weekend and doing whatever we want to. Never gonna have to change a diaper. Really don’t see any downsides.
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#25
The “I find your lack of conformity disturbing” from all directions.
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#26
The best? I don’t have to share my video games or put up with the same cartoons/kids movies over and over again every single day.
I would also like to say the peace and quiet and the sleep.
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#27
There is no community. I meet awesome older women, they have grandchildren. I meet women around my age or a bit younger, they have kids or are trying to have them. I didn’t realize being childfree meant friendless and communityless. I enjoy a ton of things by myself, but there are some things you really can’t do by yourself. Just the other day I realized how much I miss going to amusement parks, but going on rides solo is just sad.
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#28
I can imagine if you get very old, with dementia or disabled in some way, it might be difficult then. I imagine most disabilities will be sorted by robots, but I haven’t got my head around the dementia question yet. Other than that, I don’t foresee any disadvantages.
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#29
It makes dating so much more challenging. The majority of men I come across either have kids or want them.
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#30
It was very difficult for me to find a husband. Friends can’t relate to my life, or actively belittle me. (That one happened way more when I was single.) It’s expected that we work holidays or have to work in unsafe environments, our time is also not respected. We give more to friendships with parents than we receive, and it’s never reciprocated. Friendships with people with kids are basically one sided. Then there’s taxes….
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#31
Freedom cheaper cost of living, not always sick, getting beat up by another i am single staying that way will never have not one child as in zero i am not the fatherly type had bad experience when younger with my cousins kids made a horrible lasting impression on me add my uncle his two daughters same age as me were demons at best add with the world becoming odd fel best not to ever start a family
my opinion is just for my reason not to influence anyone from starting a family the choice is left to you
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#32
Being constantly ostracized and treated like you are permanently a teenager because apparently having offspring is what makes you a true adult.
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#33
Nothing.
There’s no downside unless you want children but don’t have them.
You should make new friends. I have core friends that I love no matter how different we may be. The people that I’m willing to spend time around I have a lot in common with. You need the second group.
The rest are other people’s thoughts and feelings on children. Who cares what they think. The children won’t be their responsibility.
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#34
Having people not celebrate you, your wins and such. Especially if you don’t marry. You are expected to celebrate/shell out for everyone else’s weddings, showers, and kids’ milestones and don’t have anyone reciprocate for your special moments
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