There are very few, if any, cases where it’s totally normal and acceptable to lie to one’s partner, but some folks think they will just easily get away with it. A woman asked the internet if she was wrong to want to break up with her boyfriend when he started acting suspicious on a “work trip.”
He wouldn’t pick up the phone, wouldn’t even tell her where he was going until the day before and would lie, consistently. We reached out to her via private message and will update the article when she gets back to us. For those who always crave an update, you’re in luck, she came back later to share more details.
Acting weird about a “work trip” might raise some red flags in a relationship
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So one woman wondered if it was time for a break up when her BF blocked her number while away
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Purposely sabotaging communication is a red flag
Sadly, this scenario is far from unique. Poor communication is cited as at least one of the causes in 67% of failed relationships. So when Ezekiel told Dee about his work trip just one day in advance and claimed he didn’t know where he was going, he created the first crack in their foundation of trust. Whether he genuinely didn’t have the information or was being evasive, his response felt dismissive to Dee. Research shows that women often cite dismissal of their feelings as a major complaint, with 83% reporting this as a relationship issue. This dismissiveness, even if unintentional, can make partners feel unheard and undervalued.
The situation escalated dramatically when Dee couldn’t reach Ezekiel during his trip. Her interpretation of the phone behavior led her to believe she had been blocked, which triggered deeper fears about his fidelity. Trust, once damaged, becomes incredibly difficult to restore. Studies show that individuals who have experienced relationship breakdowns demonstrate lower levels of dyadic trust compared to those without such experiences. Each perceived deception creates a foundation for future suspicion.
What makes this situation particularly destructive is the way both partners handled the conflict. Instead of having an open conversation about expectations and concerns before the trip, Dee let her irritation fester. Meanwhile, Ezekiel’s responses became increasingly defensive when questioned. Lesli Doares, a relationship coach, noted that 67% of disputes in relationships are never resolved, and this pattern of avoiding difficult conversations creates a toxic cycle where small misunderstandings compound into relationship-ending conflicts.
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Him lying about the call log should have been the final straw
When Dee asked for proof, Ezekiel provided evidence that only raised more questions. He had changed how her contact was saved and showed a portion of his call log that seemed deliberately chosen. Whether or not Ezekiel was actually being deceptive, his actions appeared suspicious because the couple lacked a foundation of transparent communication. In healthy relationships, partners can discuss concerns without immediately jumping to worst-case scenarios.
Infidelity remains a significant relationship killer, with up to 85% of relationships ending after a partner admits to cheating. However, actual infidelity is often preceded by emotional distance and communication breakdowns. Couples who don’t regularly check in with each other, share their feelings openly, and address concerns promptly create space for misunderstandings and suspicions to flourish. The timing of when relationship issues emerge also matters. Studies indicate that 70% of breakups happen within the first year of a relationship. Dee and Ezekiel have been together for over a year, which means they’ve passed a critical milestone. However, their inability to navigate this conflict effectively could still threaten their future together.
What Dee is experiencing is entirely valid. When patterns of behavior change suddenly, when explanations don’t add up, and when defensive reactions replace honest conversations, doubt naturally follows. However, the question isn’t just whether Ezekiel is being truthful. The deeper issue is whether both partners are willing to rebuild communication and trust.
This requires Ezekiel to understand why his actions seemed suspicious and to provide genuine transparency, not just screenshots that raise more questions. It also requires Dee to express her needs clearly rather than trying to catch him in lies. Relationships survive challenges when both people commit to honest dialogue, even when conversations feel uncomfortable. Without this foundation, small incidents like a last-minute work trip can trigger cascading doubts that ultimately destroy the relationship. For those who want to learn what happened next, read on, as she gave two updates, which can be found after the comments below.
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People thought his behavior was way off and some gave some suggestions
Later she shared an update
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After that, she gave one last update on what happened
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