“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

One day you’re madly in love, staring into his eyes and dreaming of your future together. Then suddenly, boom! He goes and does or says something so off-putting that you can’t stomach another second with him. That, my friend, is the ick. It has the uncanny ability to tank an entire relationship. Sometimes it’s a small, random action that weirdly elicits a massive response; like, the way he ties his shoelaces. Other times, it’s something so glaringly gross that most sane people might think you’re crazy if you stuck around to see more.

Someone recently asked women to share the weirdest ick a man ever gave them. They weren’t interested in the boring acts of ick. They wanted to know the seriously crazy, niche things guys have done that sent their significant other’s attraction hurtling towards the depths of hell.

Some of the answers were so startling you’d be forgiven for wanting to delete your dating apps immediately and take a vow of celibacy forever. Bored Panda has put together a list of the best of the worst responses. Buckle up, keep scrolling and upvote the ones that give you the ick, too.

#1

told me, proudly, that he had never read a book that wasn’t a school book. Lost all the attraction i had felt for months in an instant.

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#2

I told him I’m studying paleontology and he looked at me like I just said something insane and then asked “you actually believe in dinosaurs??”

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#3

had a normal date and everything was alright…nothing special. But as we said our goodbyes he took both my hands and looked me dead in the eyes… Then proceeded to tell me: “I can’t wait to get you pregnant one day”. Never spoke to him again and blocked him everywhere. Because what- 😭😭

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#4

he doesn’t talk to his cat.

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#5

he bought me ice cream and said “I feel like your owner”

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#6

he shouted at his mum for making him a bacon sandwich that wasn’t crispy enough

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#7

Asked me what my biggest phobia is, after I told him it he sent me 20 pics of it just to say “Come over to cuddle so youre not scared”.Instant block😭

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#8

he asked if my mom could work as a maid for his family because his usual maid was on vacation

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#9

when i was seventeen i briefly dated a guy that would kick his bedside table whenever i upset or ignored him and then show me the bruises and say it was my fault????

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#10

caught him p*ss in my bathroom sink. the toilet was right next to him, pristine, smelling like ocean breeze. he chose the sink. talked to him to stop it, he never did.

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#11

I asked him to hold my small girly purse and he did hold it an arms length away from his body so no-one would assume it’s his purse. even told people it’s not his purse. Never left a date quicker.

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#12

Offered him a salad for dinner. He said he didn’t eat vegetables but only meat. Started whining like a baby. One of the reasons I broke up with him a week later🙏

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#13

had snot on their septum ALL THE TIME. when i told them to wipe it they were like “it doesn’t bother me” and then proceeded to lean in to kiss me. with their snotty septum.

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#14

He said he stopped talking to a friend of his because the friend had dyed his hair blue and he didn’t like that bcs it meant that he was gay 🙏 i should’ve left before it got worse

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#15

His mom was shaming me like she could be a better gf 😭

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#16

I had one that would cry and punch himself in the face when I’d bring up an issue that upset me( the issue being him cyberly cheating on me)((with thousands of underage looking girls))

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#17

Idk probably when he’d send me stock images of hospitals and say he’s there cuz of me and when I’d point out the obvious watermark on the pictures he’d try to gaslight me saying I don’t trust him😔🙏

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#18

Taking a glass from the cupboard drinking water and then putting the glass back in the cupboard without washing it.

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#19

he kept shoving his face up mine and i had to tell him that i don’t enjoy eye contact (im autistic) and if he could stop and he just kept doing it so that i would “get better at it”

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#20

He lived alone but went back to his parents every weekend, bringing dirty clothes with him so that his mom could wash them 💀

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#21

He talked to himself in 3rd person

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#22

He didn’t cut his toenails, just waited until they came off by themselves 😭

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#23

his mouth would smell whatever he had for lunch every time we went out (at night mind you), would only wash teeth when showering (probs 2 times a week), would wash hair once a month (smelled like mushy peas), left sh*t in my toilet and when I asked him why he didn’t clean it he said his mom does it at home THE LIST IS HUGE

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#24

My first boyfriend got upset with me cause I laughed when he said his mum still cut his toenails at 17 years old.

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#25

I once had a boyfriend and his mom cooked something sweet a classic austrian dish and he started a fight with her in front of me disrespecting her over there being not enough sugar on it (there was and he was hella disrespectful and aggressive about it)

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#26

When he dehumanized an overweight person and said it was fine cause he has „Fat friends“ LIKE WHAT💀

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#27

He said „oh your in your bed again.“ excuse me sir I just got of night shifts as a nurse I WAS TIRED

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#28

called me mom. twice.

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#29

took a selfie with me on the first date and showed it to people, saying I might be “the one”. bearing in mind he was going through a divorce at the time.

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#30

he stated several times that his cousin was the girl of his life and how much he loves her AND got offended when I said I didn’t wanna hear about her all the time

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#31

He was American and his geat grandma was from Greece. Another girl told him he was not Greek when he couldn’t even point at the country on a map and he made big fuzz abt why he was 100% Greek 🙄

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#32

spitting on purpose, we’ll be outside, just walking on the sidewalk and he’ll just spit on the ground randomly. He thought it was funny🥀💔

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#33

My ex would pull this horrible pouting face like the one from zoolander anytime we would kiss and pull away. I genuinely used to keep my eyes closed after we kissed because it scared me that much

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#34

he was weirdly close with his cousin and his dad would tell me “if them two weren’t cousins they’d be together” and he would spend days at her house and not text me, god knows what went on tbh😭😭😭

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#35

He farted right next to me on public transportation and proceeded to call it “marking his territory”

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#36

We went on a walk and his shoe lace broke and he wanted to call his parents to pick us up because he couldn’t walk without shoe laces

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#37

Specifically put sad background music on to record a guilt tripping voice note 😭

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#38

Had him over for a cozy dinner with my friends and he kept yapping about making money. My friend had enough and called him an impressive short king, he thought she was flirting with him…

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#39

Threw a tantrum (like actual screaming stomping his foot) because he had stolen the TV from the living room to put on his desk and his mom asked him to put it back

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#40

Watched him slowly fall in love with chatgpt (I was still logged on his account after breakup). He also sent memes to chatgpt and expected the AI to find it funny…. And more messed up confessions. I could write a whole essay 😮‍💨

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#41

swore up and down he wanted to marry me… 2 weeks later he cheated and told me he never loved me 💀

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#42

whenever he laughed really hard, snot would come out of his nose and spit from his mouth, and he would always wipe it with his sleeve. and also he never read any book (even the school ones)

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#43

saw him fake rage screaming. thats it 💀

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#44

His celebrity crush was more important than me. He would bring this celebrity up in EVERY conversation

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#45

when he was angry he’d pace back and forth and do a little stomp before turning the other way

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#46

We both had to swallow a little packet of powder (bc he kept giving me infections) and he was so. damn. dramatic about it. I swallowed it in one go, as most of us do but he spent (not exaggerating) around 20 minutes trying not to cough, leaning over the wall and acting all dramatic💀

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#47

we were together for a couple of months at that point. we fought because I thought he was ashamed on me and while holding hands a couple of guys went our way and I asked “wanna stop holding hands cause youre emberessed?” he let go of my hand and said thank you

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#48

he didn’t know how to use nail clippers and when i showed him how he scooped the trimmings up in his hand and looked at me and asked what to do next with them

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#49

He kept talking about his ex and when I mentioned it he said „omg no I’m over her I promise“ then he pulls out HIS PINKY FINGER in a PUBLIC park on the SECOND date and says „pinky promise I’m over her“ and I was just so taken aback I just sat there staring at him, in a public park, holding out his pinky to promise he was over his ex to a girl he had gone on one date with 💔

“He Doesn’t Talk To His Cat”: 50 Women Share The Exact Second Their Attraction Died

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#50

Walked around with a walking stick everywhere because he thought it would make him look cool

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