Everyone deserves to let their hair down and have some fun, even those who rarely have a chance for it (like the cool Finnish PM Sanna Marin, who made headlines recently).
But when you’re a woman, things suddenly go from pure fun to somewhat challenging, if not potentially dangerous.
Becoming a victim of a crime, assault or accident while out there partying is something all women are familiar with in one way or another. From a very early age, we learn to be cautious of our surroundings, especially when we feel the most relaxed.
So this time, we take a look at this viral thread from Ask Reddit where people share important safety tips to keep young women safe while out partying. From keeping your friends close to guarding your drinks, below are the most crucial things for us to remember.
#1
F**k politeness, make a scene. You’re more likely to be sexually assaulted by someone you know than by a stranger. If they get too handsy and don’t respect when you say no, very loudly make a scene to get others’ attention
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#2
Look out for each other. If you go with friends, everyone shows up together and leaves together. No one gets left behind.
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#3
Trust your gut. If something feels wrong, then something’s probably wrong.
Look, worst case scenario is you leave early over nothing and miss a few hours of drinking. That’s fine. You’ll have *years* of more parties to catch.
**Trust your gut**.
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#4
If a random person that you don’t know offers you a drink, tell them to take a drink from it first. It’s saved my sister a few times now.
#5
Former frat guy who’s hosted a ton of parties.
Keep your drink in your hand, if you set it down and take your eyes off of it, go get a new drink, no one will care.
Know your limits. You’re young and still new to drinking, it’s up to you to learn the difference between 3 drinks and 8 drinks.
Go with a group of friends, safety in numbers.
If someone’s creeping you out at a house party tell someone who lives there, we will kick them out.
If your drunk and can’t walk home most campuses have a program where volunteer students or security will walk you home. The host of the house party will gladly call them for you if you ask them too.
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#6
Never get in a car with someone who has (or you think might have) been drinking.
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#7
Bring that boring sober friend along with you. We will make sure you get home alright and don’t get taking advantage of.
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#8
Introduce yourself to as many girls as possible right off the bat. It may not lead to friendship, or conversation, but if everyone in the room that COULD see the signs you don’t notice is aware of you, you’re much more likely to be safe.
I had a younger friend tell me she does this wherever she goes, she’ll wave hello to every older woman and cashier and “Dad” looking guy at Wal-Mart even, just to make an impression in case something bad happens. When we feel like we have a personal stake in someone’s safety (i.e. if they went out of their way to say Hi to you) you’re more likely to help out without being asked.
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#9
If you’re going to drink, stick to one type of drink/alcohol. DO NOT MIX.
Also, drink a water for every 2 drinks you have
Also, before you go to bed that night, take 2 motrin/ibuprofen and drink at least one glass of water if not more.
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#10
Take lots of pictures. These help you track your night later, if things get hazy.
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#11
Create a code with your friends for “i don’t feel safe” “i need to leave” and “help me”
Watch your drink and your friend’s drinks
If you live somewhere where defensive gear isn’t allowed, have a bottle of dry shampoo or spray deodorant (use it like pepper spray)
Share your locations with your friends
Don’t go out alone
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#12
When I was in college I had a pack of girl friends who would all go to the bars together. We had a system where when we saw a friend with a guy talking to her pretty intensely we’d all swoop over as a team and say “Hey we’re gonna move to X bar now”. If the friend was uncomfy with the guy’s attention she’d say “Aww boo ok Hey sorry guy gotta go” and get swooped off. If she was fine she’s just say “Nah, I’ma stay for a bit, I’ll catch up”. We’d only leave if she came with, otherwise we’d hover to keep an eye on things and SHOCKER the dude would not notice.
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#13
Always have a plan b and c for transportation. Sometimes it’s hard to catch an Uber/Lyft in some areas at a certain time of night. Stick together. Safety in numbers is true. If you and your friends are looking out for each other, there’s less danger. People who are looking to harm others are always looking for the person who’s off on their own, away from the “herd.” Or they’ll try and get you alone.
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#14
Make friends that have your best interest at heart not friends that insist on doing stupid things. The ones that look out for you will have your back, just don’t forget to do the same back
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#15
There’s a nail polish you can get that changes color when dipped into a drink that’s been spiked. Not sure what it’s called
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#16
This is one that I’ve never really seen posted, but I think it’s helpful.
You can get a good sense of a guy’s respect for your boundaries before you’re alone with them. Do they push the subject matter of conversation beyond what you seem to be comfortable with? Do they keep trying to feel you up while dancing after you’ve indicated you don’t want them to? Are they simply too drunk to pick up on social cues? These are red flags and you should seek out your friends and avoid being alone with them.
If someone gets really pushy, you should probably call a ride home.
If you are actively looking for someone to hook up with, find someone who is able to show interest without being pushy. You don’t want to be alone with someone who doesn’t respect boundaries, even if you’re attracted to them. (Hot guys can be extra entitled).
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#17
Don’t let your drink out of your sight. Bring your own if you can. Buddy up, no girl left behind. Eat carbs before you go. I repeat, EAT CARBS. They will help absorb alcohol which you need for the next tip. Do NOT get wasted. Trust me, just don’t.
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#18
Invest in a reliable backup charger for your phone. Making sure your phone’s battery doesn’t die can have a surprisingly significant impact on your safety.
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#19
Also if you feel unsafe walking somewhere, you can get the app Noonlight. You press on the button the entire time you’re walking to your destination and if you let go of it and don’t enter your PIN in the allotted time it will notify the authorities of your location and I believe it will also notify your emergency contacts if you set that up in the app.
I honestly didn’t use it too much this last year but it was still nice to have, since my dorm was pretty far from the central area of campus and there wasn’t a lot of lighting.
And look into if your school has any sort of free/discounted ride service! Mine had a student run service where they would pick you up and drop you off anywhere on/near campus for free from 9pm-2am. They also had a deal with Lyft for off campus housing.
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#20
If you have an iPhone, (others might have the feature as well, I’m not familiar) it’s not a bad idea to “share your location” with a close friend before you go out. Heaven forbid anything happens, it will be much easier to find you, even if you’re too drunk or whatever to answer. Along the same lines, a portable charger could be useful
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#21
Ask around for the reputation of the place hosting. A lot of times colleges have a specific frat house/houses people may know to avoid. If people don’t have good things to say, best not to go there then.
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#22
I stay relatively sober if I go out alone. Keep pepper spray, keys, a knife, whatever self defense I need on me. Keep an eye out for someone following me into the bathrooms etc. it has happened. Have fun, talk to the regulars. Try to talk to other women. Listen to some music or karaoke. Try not to scroll on my phone. Make sure someone knows where I am. Have a plan to get home.
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#23
If a man has you feeling scared, being very physical, turn around. If he has his arms wrapped around you from behind tightly, smack your head back on his face as hard as you can. That will get you free of his grip. If you stay turned towards him, you don’t have much you can do.
Don’t drink at a party. Drinking really isn’t cool or fun. It can get you so drunk that you aren’t acting yourself at all and it will just be a embarrassing memory. Keep it down, a drink won’t hurt, but try to remember drinking is very strong and can do some damage.
Don’t ever leave your drink. If you have to use a bathroom. Finish the drink first or get a new one when you come back.
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