There are few things in life more beautiful than a strong, platonic relationship. You may never tire of hanging out with your best friend, and you likely feel comfortable sharing absolutely everything with them. They know you better than you know yourself, and you can rely on your bestie to be there on your absolute best and worst days.
But just like in romantic relationships, there might come a day when you have a painful realization that your partner in crime doesn’t value you as much as you value them. Redditors have been sharing stories of why they ended friendships with their former BFFs, so we’ve gathered the most heartbreaking tales below. We hope these stories don’t remind you of any of your own friendships, pandas. But if they do, remember that you deserve better. And keep reading to find a conversation with Olivia Brouillette-Wardhono, Founder, Lead Psychologist and Integrative Somatic Practitioner at Therapy With Olivia.
#1
He surrendered his dog back to the shelter, after 5 years of owning him.
His name was Dusty. He was a golden retriever, and he was the best boy ever. I would play fetch with him for hours until he would nearly pass out at my feet. Dusty was amazing! I loved him.
One day, I go over to Dale’s house, and I say “Where’s Dusty?” He answers “Oh, I gave him back to the shelter.”
Me ~ “F**k! Why??!?!”
Dale ~ “I only got him so that I could meet girls easier, and now that I’m married I don’t need him anymore. Besides, having a dog is a lot of responsibility.”
Me ~ “But you knew how I felt about him. WHY didn’t you ask me? I would have gladly adopted him!”
Dale ~ “You know, I never even thought of that.”
I left immediately and drove to the shelter. Dusty had already found a new home. So, I’m sad and glad in the same moment.
F**k you, Dale. You’re a d**k and I’m glad your wife finally divorced your selfish a*s.
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#2
Friends for 20 years. She didn’t drive so pretty much the entire friendship I would take her grocery shopping every week. I took her cats to the vet. Helped her when she lost her house. For 20 years I asked her for nothing.
My husband ended up suddenly being diagnosed with brain cancer. The day he was released from the hospital after having a tumor the size of a lemon removed, I called in a prescription he needed and our local pharmacy didn’t have it so I would have to drive an hour round trip and my husband wasn’t able to handle that amount of time in the car so I called to ask if she could stay with him while I got his meds. She told me no because she wanted to go to the store with her boyfriend. I called my neighbor and she watched him.
I never talked to her again. It’s been almost 10 years.
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#3
I met some new people and I noticed that I liked hanging out with them more because they didn’t make me feel like c**p. I didn’t really notice it at the time but looking back on it now, I realize that the guy I considered my best friend was actually my biggest bully. He was constantly insulting me, embarrassing me on front of other people, belittling me… And I just thought that’s what friends did. I had to make real friends to learn that’s not the case.
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#4
My dad died. I asked if a few of my friends would hang out and have a low-key night playing video games. I told them I didn’t want to have a big party. They said that was cool. I showed up and they’d invited a ton of people for a huge house party. Then they got pissed that I was “just sulking on the couch” and got s****y with me. Our friendship never recovered and now we don’t talk at all.
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#5
We always worked on his car together. I always worked on my car alone.
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#6
Didn’t end it myself, but accepted it ended when I realized if I stopped talking, I’d never hear from him again.
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#7
We were friends for over 40 years. Friends since childhood.
We entered into a business together and he completely screwed me over, taking most of the money with him, and leaving me in crushing debt.
Years later I asked why he did it. His answer; “Because you’re an atheist. You rejected god, so you deserve everything you get.”
And that, was that.
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#8
The second I got brain cancer I stopped being included in their lives.
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#9
Because I terminated a complicated pregnancy.
She sure wears that p***y hat and feminist sweatshirt proudly. .
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#10
Every problem she had was an emergency that I needed to drop everything for and give her my undivided immediate attention. But when I was having a rough time, the reply I got from her was ‘stop your s**t’.
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#11
She told my kids they were the reason I tried to self delete. 25 years of friendship, someone I talked to every day no matter what state or country she was stationed in. I don’t even have to words to describe the emotion I feel. Heartbreak, anger, confusion… none of them apply. I’m just numb to her.
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#12
In 2018, I was really sick with kidney failure and was in and out of the ER multiple times before I finally got diagnosed with CKD.
My friend didn’t like that I was getting a lot of attention from our other friends and people in our small town. She decides to go around school and lie to people, saying I was lying about being sick and just wanted attention.
When I was finally getting better and was actually home for more then a few days she came over with a few of her friends and was laughing trying to embarrass me infront of them trying to get me to say I was infact lying about being sick.
Wasn’t until I pulled out all the meds I was on and proved that I was yellowish in the skin (it was f*****g obvious when you actually looked at my eyes)
I Embarrassed her infront of everyone she cried and played victim. Ran out the house and I haven’t talked to her since.
Bit sad bc we wore friends since kindergarten, but I igs that’s what jealousy does to people so 🤷♀️🤷♀️.
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#13
She slept with my husband while I was in the hospital *having his baby*.
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#14
He robbed me of a pathetically small amount of money that I would have given him if he had just asked.
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#15
I spent years dying of organ failure. My friends began to see me as a burden. A reminder of their own mortality. So they stopped answering when I called and stopped coming by to visit. I spent months in the hospital withering in pain and no one came to see me besides my mom.
I got a transplant and I’m all better now, but I’m quite lonely and sad.
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#16
She texted me she was taking a bottle of pills, a goodbye letter to her mom, and all her passwords and info because she was committing s*****e while I was 2 hours away. She wouldn’t answer the phone for 20 minutes. I called 911.
She blamed me for an ambulance showing up to her apartment for a wellness check and said I overreacted.
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#17
Didn’t want to be her friend anymore.. So now we’re engaged!
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#18
We had a dumb teenage falling out and both of us were too stubborn to reach out and apologize. Finally about 4 years later I reach out and we meet in person and reconcile. It was a nice reconciliation but we were never as close after that. I also realized in hindsight through the whole ordeal that I was always the one who had to be the “adult” or bigger person in our friendship. I think that’s why I waited 4 years to reach out, I wanted to see if they cared enough about me or the friendship to do it. And after we reconciled it felt like the responsibility to keep the friendship going was solely on me. As you grow up and make new friends in adulthood, you reach a point where you end friendships that are more work than they should be. In hindsight our friendship would have ended with or without the falling out, the falling out just made it happen sooner.
To this day I consider them my greatest childhood friend. But I don’t think our friendship was made to last into adulthood from the beginning. That’s life tho.
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#19
I just couldn’t get on board with her anymore. Her fake influencer job, genuinely believing she was a psychic. Raising her child on benefits but preaching to her followers that they should all follow their dreams and quit their job like her. Anti vaxxer. Doesn’t wear a seatbelt when driving because she thinks it’s more likely to k**l her in a crash. The list goes on. I just can’t resonate with any of her beliefs anymore.
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#20
F****r went and died on me.
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#21
Realized he was using me the whole 10 year friendship. Dude also was really controlling and just a massive hypocrite.
It got even worse when dude became more religious. He just became this sanctimonious a*****e.
Looking back I was warned about him by multiple people that this is who he is.
When I blocked him I swear it felt like a weight had been lifted.
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#22
They got way to deep into conspiracies.. even going so far as traveling to France to join demonstrations. We’re from Germany.
Yeah.. it sucks 😮💨.
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#23
I got clean from d***s and he didn’t. Still care about him and hope the best for him, but he just doesn’t want to get clean. I tried to be his support for a while but it was just taking a toll on myself for no forward progress for him.
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#24
Best friend threw a party. Another friend sexually harassed me at said party. Tried to tell my best friend what happened and she said in these exact words “You should try seeing it from her side.” A whole lot of drama ensued afterward, which resulted in me losing all of my friends from that friend group. It really f*****g sucked but I’m doing my best to move on from the situation.
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#25
After 15 years of taking my friendship for granted, I finally had enough. Though it was not my intention.
The last thing I told them was, “One day soon, you’re gonna look up, and I won’t be there.” 3 weeks had passed, and I’d been taking the time to type out exactly what I was going to say and how I felt, for the next time I saw them.
Then I got a message asking, “Are you cutting me off?”
At that moment, I decided that the answer was “yes.”
I had also decided that they did not deserve an explanation, nor did they deserve a 10th chance.
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#26
He told me he was gonna steal my girlfriend and then proceeded to steal my girlfriend. Man of his word at least.
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#27
M**h k**led her. One day I realized I was trying to love a stranger for the sake of a memory.
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#28
I made a new female friend. Best friend was a female. She saw competition and kept trying to gaslight me about how apparently new friend was just trying to sleep with me and was super fake. I was just like ???
I tried to get them together to play DnD. Old friend couldn’t stand to be around new friend cause she hated everything about new friends voice and personality. Old friend started hanging out with a new guy I didn’t like. She said either I choose her or she leaves to hang out with new guy.
Bye. Me and new friend have had the best friendship I’ve experienced so far purely platonic and we make each other laugh so hard. I didn’t realise how much old friend manipulated me and gaslit me. I feel free.
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#29
She neglects her eldest child, while doting on the new baby/now toddler. The eldest child has some obvious learning/developmental disabilities, but his mother is in extreme denial. She has a weird attitude towards science/medicine/psychology and refuses to get him any help. She says he’s ‘fine’. He has no friends at school, and cannot stop himself from talking when not appropriate. He is also 11 years old, 200 POUNDS, and lives on an exclusively McDonald’s diet. It’s very sad to watch this kid try to walk.
Any time we went to spend time together, she’d always bring both the kids and would constantly SCREAM at the eldest child in front of me. It was brutal.
The final straw was when I drove 7 hours to visit them, and the entire visit was her just screaming at this kid to behave. He told me, “I’m sorry I’m so bad and ruined your visit. I’m just a bad kid, I don’t know what to do.”
It broke my heart, broke my trust in my friend, and ultimately broke our friendship. She ended up constantly messaging me and my family members to no avail, because she REALLY wanted me in her d**n wedding (guess which kid was left out of ALL family photos).
It took me more than 20 years to see this person for who she really is: extremely selfish/self-centered, attention-seeking, and a terrible mother.
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#30
1993 I think — he failed to pay traffic tickets. I posted bail. He said he would pay me back. I put it on the back burner and said nothing about it to anyone. Less than a week later our mutual friend asked why I was hounding him for the $$. So he borrowed money and then insulted me to our friends. I should have listened to his Dad and let him sit for a few days.
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#31
I ended the friendship after lending money. It’s true what they say money ruins relationships.
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#32
Condescending jokes were only funny when she made them, and setting boundaries was a personal attack on her.
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#33
In middle school I had my first best friend, we’d play videogames together, had sleepovers, etc. When we got older he got into World of Warcraft which my parents understandably didn’t want to pay the subscription for. He started hanging out with me less and eventually joined in on being a bit of a bully to me because I was weird and nerdy. Eventually we just stopped hanging out. It sucked at the time but I found new and better friend that I am still friends with now at 30.
But yeah, a friendship ending over World of Warcraft is pretty funny looking back lol.
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#34
He beat his girlfriend up.
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#35
A couple of months before my wedding, he told me he didn’t want to be my best man anymore… via WhatsApp. The conversation that followed revealed that he was extremely jealous of the relationship my now wife and I have. We had been friends for 20 years.
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