It can be sobering to realize that oftentimes, the most painful things you hear from someone don’t come from an enemy and often aren’t even intended to be insults. The truth is that our loved ones can and will sometimes tell us things that can hurt very badly, with both good and ill intent.
Someone asked “What’s the most hurtful thing a man can hear from a woman?” and people shared their relevant examples. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote the most insightful posts and be sure to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments.
#1
I had a drinking problem 6 years ago. I broke up with my gf because subconsciously I knew I was in a bad head space. Didn’t want to take her down with me. She came to grab her stuff from the house. We lived together. She said to me “Don’t become your father. You are better than him.” My father and mother are both alcoholics. Mother has been sober for 30+ years. Father has not and is awful while drinking.
Her saying this broke me. I quit drinking less than one week later. S**t f****d me up. Hurt me to my core. But I thank her daily for saying this to me. Not literally.But got my head straight. Might not be exactly what this post is asking for. This is my worse experience but at the same the best.
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#2
When I was about 20 one of my best friends came around and was upset that a guy had rejected her and said she wasn’t attractive. She was crying and slightly drunk, as I hugged her she said “now I understand what it must feel like to be you”.
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#3
Every argument I have had with my sister’s since I was a child has resulted in my mum saying “you know what they are like, just let them have their way” because apparently I can take it better. I’ve basically been told my entire life that my opinion is irrelevant because I am a man and don’t cry about it and therefore it doesn’t affect my feelings.
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#4
“You’re too sensitive, it feels like I’m dating a girl.”
My first ex told me this, and I thought it was a me problem. Turns out there are women who don’t have a problem with sensitive guys (e.g. my wife).
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#5
We can stay married, but as friends. I want to pursue the other man.
No, thank you. Here is a divorce for you.
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#6
For me, it was when she said “I’m only with you because you’ve got a big d**k and know how to use it. I never really gave a s**t about anything else.”
In response to me opening up about a few emotional things and the experience of being roofied by an older (adult) woman when I was 14 at a middle school party.
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#7
Using something you never told anyone else against you.
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#8
Once had someone tell me, after years of being the “rock” in the relationship, “You’re just not that strong, are you?” It’s like all those moments of supporting them suddenly meant nothing.
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#9
“You are not the father”.
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#10
When you’re trying to communicate your wants and needs in a friendship/relationship and they basically say “this is who I am, I’m not going to accommodate for you”
By all means, prioritize yourself, but friendships are a two-way street, so you can’t expect to just mindlessly do what you want and expect everyone to adjust to what you’re doing.
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#11
“But you’re so nice, how come you’re single” if i knew I wouldn’t be single and rubbing salt into that wound isn’t doing any favors.
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#12
“He was just better in bed”.
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#13
“I wish I never had a child with you”
“I’m going to make sure you only get supervised visits to see your daughter”
“You’re so f*****g stupid, you f*****g ape”
Then the next day , acts like nothing happened and business as usual. Just because your close to having your period , doesn’t mean you get to base all your actions and words on the emotions your feeling .
Letting emotions run your life makes you weak and undesirable.
(This is brief, and a lot more things have been said. I literally have never said anything bad to her to make sure I don’t sink to that level).
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#14
“your brother f***s better than you. but worse than your dad. but they’re both better than you. also we’re getting divorced because i’m having your best friends baby”.
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#15
I lost most of my hair around 25 years old. It was tough for me and I started thinking about hair transplant but I was not sure at 100% if I wanted to proceed. I was playing squash with my ex-girlfriend when we started having the discussion during a break. With the sweat, my hair looked even thinner and closer to what I would actually look like completely bold.
She starting crying when she heard about my hesitation and told me to do it because “I disgusted her” like this.
It was tough, especially because you don’t have much control on boldness and it is a common issue for many young men.
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#16
You’re not enough for me; I’m moving on to better.
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#17
I don’t like the movie Crocodile Dundee II.
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#18
You have been raising a child that’s not yours. That’s the biggest L a guy can’t take and the biggest insult.
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#19
“His jokes are funnier” might as well be saying you want a divorce.
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#20
I never loved you.
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#21
“The only reason you didn’t get me pregnant when i stopped taking my birth control, is because you’re a lesser species.”
We werent even trying to have a baby in the first place…..?
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#22
“Maybe your father was right to treat you like a dog, you do belong on a leash”.
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#23
Your mom must be so disappointed in you.
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#24
“Is it in yet?”.
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#25
To me the most hurtful thing was getting nothing at all I got broken up with and asked what I did that caused this and she replied “ I don’t know”. That sentence sat in my head for months. After 3 years I got I don’t know … I’d rather get told anything else than I don’t know.
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#26
When a women expects you to there thru her hardships and emotional well being and then when you open up just once or try to find some comfort. She makes it all about herself or starts having a dry spell on you.
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#27
I was once told that I ‘wasn’t toxic enough’ i don’t think that really hurt me, but I still think about that sometimes.
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#28
“It’s not yours”.
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#29
While we were sitting at a table, chatting, my cousin’s wife told me “I could’ve found someone like you, but you come with a lot of problems. I settled for him because I don’t want the hassle”
She is bat s**t ugly and way below the level of my cousin’s. Disgusting.
Edit: I didn’t get hurt at all, my cousin propably did. I feel bad for him.
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#30
For me, it would be hearing, “I don’t respect you anymore.” Respect is a cornerstone of any relationship, and losing that can feel like losing everything.
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