There’s a lot we don’t know about people until we spend more time with them. There are a ton of surprising things you can learn about the folks you care about—and human beings in general—when you see how they behave when they let their guard down. It turns out all of us have lots in common, something many of us probably already suspected.
In a viral discussion on the popular r/AskMen online group, men revealed all of the things that they didn’t know about women before they started going out. Their answers were incredibly honest and a great antidote for anyone who’s prone to putting others on a pedestal while dating. Scroll down to read these internet users’ personal experiences.
Bored Panda reached out to the author of the viral thread, redditor u/_Red_User_. They were happy to answer our questions and to share their thoughts about proper communication in relationships. Check out their insights as you scroll down.
#1
– That they often feel obligated to do stuff they don’t want to do by their family, friends and just random people and they feel really guilty if they don’t do those things.
– That they feel a lot of pressure to look and act certain ways. Getting dressed can be really overwhelming sometimes.
– That they are often so critical of themselves that you’d be shocked to hear their inner voice.
– That the shower can never be hot enough.
– That they need way more sleep than us.
– That they care a lot about detail and want to share that detail with you when they debrief the day.
– That they have an insatiable appetite for being held, cuddled, and snuggled.
– That giving them regular orgasms is great for their mood and the relationship in general.
– That a fridge full of food will be somehow calming to them despite the grocery bill being soul crushing to you.
– That their feet are always various levels of cold ranging from corpse-dug-up-from-snowdrift cold to deep-sea-tuna-on-ice cold.
– That the facts of a situation will be interpreted in different ways depending on their feelings at the time.
– That they strangely stay friends with other women who are lowkey mean to them.
– That they remember every f****d up thing you’ve ever done or said.
– That taking the pill can really mess with them.
– That it isn’t enough just to do things for them because they ask you to. You need to want to do it without them having to ask. That’s how they know you care.
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#2
That when they vent, the solution is sometimes just to listen
Image source: anon, Antoni Shkraba (not the actual photo)
#3
Y’all like crime shows too damn much it makes me nervous
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#4
That taking the pill really is a wild ride and can seriously impact some girls’ behavior and wellbeing.
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#5
I learned how much I like being a man. I mean, having a period sounds terrible. Childbirth is something I’m glad I’ll never experience
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#6
The insane cost of feminine hygiene products or makeup. I wonder about the numbers because the production costs can’t be that high.
Also why don’t women’s clothes sizes make any sense at all? It doesn’t seem standardized or rational within a given store/brand let alone across brands on the same clothing type.
I can buy a polo or tee shirt in my size and most of the ones I like, regardless of brand or store, fit me pretty well and about the same.
I had no idea women’s clothing had so much variation.
Image source: JCP76, Polina Zimmerman (not the actual photo)
#7
I’ll add something I don’t see that I didn’t understand:
Childhood trauma.
I understand that this can happen to men, but the number of women I’ve had serious relationships with who ended up struggling with severe trauma when they were younger has been eye-opening.
It dictates parts of the relationship you don’t even realize. Certain things you do can set off triggers that you may have never been aware of. You can end up doing damage to someone who you deeply care about by accident. It could be a simple touch when trying to initiate and without appropriate definitions or communication it can be really devastating.
Then, you begin to piece things together:
“Oh, now I get why she used sex to get my attention.”
“Oh, now I understand why this person has no interest in sex”
It’s just something that’s really personal and difficult. Something people don’t realize they’ve dealt with. And then they need to battle through it and try to heal themselves.
It’s just something I didn’t ever deal with as a guy and I’m both selfishly thankful I’m a man and heartbroken these things happen.
Image source: swordsman917, Alex Green (not the actual photo)
#8
I had no idea what a pain periods and the cramping and the mood swings were until I married a girl who had a bad week every single month and then menopause….omg! I’m glad I’m a guy.
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#9
Evidently, you’re not supposed to put bras in the dryer. They turn into shrinky d***s. And bras are expensive to replace.
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#10
How much toilet paper they consume. When I was living alone an 8 pack of toilet paper lasted me like a year. Once she moved in I was buying at least an 8 pack a month. You’ve been warned.
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#11
That they can fart, and if they’re sitting the right way, it travels forward, up through their labia, and comes out the front side.
This took me a long time to get over learning.
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#12
The amount of hair bands that will appear out of nowhere. They multiply all over the place!
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#13
The smell of period blood and it can fall out in clots.
Image source: Havib3, Sora Shimazaki (not the actual photo)
#14
How much they get “hollered at.” Not sure if it’s universal but def seems to be the case in a big city.
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#15
They can also be slobs and (while the human body and bodily processes aren’t gross) they can be just as gross as men.
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#16
How sentimental they are. Buying flowers is an odd exercise to me since I don’t *get* it, but my partner’s been moved to tears multiple times because of it.
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#17
How much they shed
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#18
I remember being shocked that my first girlfriend *also* enjoyed me touching her boobs.
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#19
How much what dream they had that night changes their entire day.
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#20
how long it takes to put on makeup, shower, and get ready to do anything
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#21
The white gooy stuff that stains their underwear
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#22
Hair, hair everywhere.
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#23
I had no idea many women slather on moisturizer over most of their body after every single shower. Still pretty mind blowing tbh.
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#24
They set alarms for birth control.
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#25
Moustaches
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#26
How often I am wrong about basically everything.
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#27
How sacred their space is to them. In my apartment I couldn’t care less where you put things as long as it makes sense. Hell, I don’t even have a set place for where everything goes, and often decide to put things where they make sense at the time I’m putting them away.
But in a woman’s apartment, God forbid you put a brush in the comb-drawer.
Image source: Scrufftar, Pixabay (not the actual photo)
#28
A women urinates with the power of a water cannon
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#29
Fake eyelashes.
I’m an idiot
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#30
They always want to be doing something. If they’re not they’re making plans for what we’re gunna be doing.
Image source: RedSonGamble, Jess Bailey Designs (not the actual photo)
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