Family gatherings are supposed to bring people closer, not drive them further apart. However, sometimes old wounds and unspoken tensions surface at the worst possible moments.
Today’s Original Poster (OP) recently shared how a family get-together spiraled into full-blown family fallout after his brother’s mistress-turned-wife thought it was appropriate to question his child’s paternity over dinner.
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Some people point fingers, dish out judgment, and lecture others on morality, all while ignoring their own questionable choices
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The author shared that his brother had an extramarital affair, divorced his first wife, and married the woman he cheated with, creating tension within the family
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During a family gathering, the new sister-in-law asked the OP’s wife to take a paternity test because their daughter’s skin tone didn’t “match” his own
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Shocked by the accusation, he defended his wife loudly, calling out the mistress for her disrespect and insisting that she of all people shouldn’t make such comments
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His mother was upset at him for calling the sister-in-law out, and his brother also demanded he apologize for his comments, which he refused to do
The OP explained that his brother had divorced his first wife and married the woman he cheated with, now making her his current sister-in-law. The family, trying to keep things civil, has been awkwardly adjusting to this new reality.
At a recent family gathering, the brother’s new wife turned to the OP’s wife and suggested that she take a paternity test to prove their daughter was actually his as the child’s skin tone didn’t “match” the OP’s lighter complexion. Understandably, the wife was too shocked to respond, but the OP stepped in and firmly stated that his wife didn’t need to prove anything.
In fact, furious at the insult, the OP called the new sister-in-law out as a “mistress” who was either experienced or not, and that was when his mother pulled him aside and asked why he’d say that out loud in front of everyone. He responded with a loud voice that “a second-rate mistress” shouldn’t be questioning his wife or having an affair with married men.
He and his wife left immediately, unwilling to entertain the humiliation. Later, his brother demanded an apology from the OP and that didn’t go over well when he strongly refused. Now, the family is fractured, but he stood by his choice, refusing to apologize for defending his wife’s honor.
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The OP’s family making an effort to keep things civil, despite the infidelity of the brother, is understandable. My Wellbeing notes that infidelity doesn’t just impact the couple involved, but can deeply affect the extended family as well.
They further explain that affairs often undermine the trust and stability that families rely on, leaving relatives caught between supporting the betrayed partner and maintaining ties with the unfaithful spouse. Therefore, this tension can make family gatherings and shared traditions uncomfortable or strained, amplifying the emotional fallout.
In the case of the OP, who was angered by the comments of the sister-in-law who was once his brother’s mistress, Psychology Today suggests that the anger was fueled by the hypocrisy of the sister-in-law. They highlight that people often use hypocritical behavior to constantly avoid confronting their own flaws and wrongdoing.
LMFT Nina Westbrook notes that family members, like the sister-in-law, often bring unwanted advice or ongoing drama, overstepping and making it important to clearly define where boundaries are needed. She recommends practicing assertive communication, identifying which areas of your life are open for discussion, and setting firm limits to protect your emotional space.
Netizens rallied behind the OP, praising him for standing up for his wife’s dignity and emphasizing that his brother’s wife had crossed a serious line by questioning his daughter’s paternity, while his family’s silence on that insult spoke volumes.
What do you think about this situation? Should the OP have stayed calm for the sake of family peace, or was calling out the “mistress” a good move? We would love to know your thoughts!
Netizens applauded the author for standing up for his wife and refusing to apologize to the sister-in-law for her rude comment
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