“You want to know the one truth I’ve learned in all my years? Life’s too hard to face sober.” – Octieve San, The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim.
There, I helped! [smug face]
In all seriousness, getting advice is always helpful. Yes, it should be taken with a grain of salt, and not all advice is necessarily great or even decent. But even if it is crummy advice, it might just help put things into perspective, or give you a reason to laugh about it. So, win-win.
And maybe these tips from Reddit might be of use to you as older generations (everyone over 40) share the pearls of wisdom they’ve acquired throughout the years with the younger peeps of the internets.
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#1
I’m not quite 40, but my advice is: get the f**k off TikTok
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#2
40 isn’t old
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#3
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking everyone else your age has something that you don’t and you feel hopelessly behind and like a failure.
Once you’re out of school, there are no timelines anymore. You are not supposed to do anything by any particular point in your life. Everyone is different.
You are not supposed to have had X number of sexual partners, had X number of relationships, be married, have a kid, own a house, have a dream job, or figure out your calling in life at any particular point – if at all.
Life is very long and you will have many chances to do things.
Make your own path.
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#4
You’re not special, no one cares what you do and the sooner you can accept it, the sooner you can be at peace with yourself.
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#5
Stretch everyday or at least more then never. Stay limber and flexible because once it is gone, it’s almost impossible to get it back.
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#6
You aren’t going to get rich as an influencer or become a professional gamer. Get educated and get a job.
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#7
take care of your knees and back.
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#8
It’s okay and healthy to sit in silence. Put down your phone, leave your earphones in your pocket, and just be. It’s important to not constantly be stimulated.
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#9
Don’t cheap out on a mattress, pillows or shoes.
Cut back on the sugar.
Do NOT bring work home with you.
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#10
Cut s****y people out fast with a sharp knife. There are so many f*****g people on this planet, why give second chances? Also, family are friends you didn’t get to decide to bring into your life, but should be held to the same expectations as non family members. So many toxic family members saying “but were family…”
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#11
Avoid “toxic positivity” people. Actually, try to avoid all toxic people, “toxic positivity” is just a bit harder to recognise. It is ok to be not in a mood sometimes.
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#12
Take photos around where you live; streets, buildings, forests, etc. Because everything will look different in 20 years.
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#13
Don’t waste time being the person other people think you should be, and instead be the person you want to be
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#14
Love life it is short. Be grateful for everything. The biggest burden you’ll carry are your own thoughts. Learn to live in the present, the past is just a memory and the future is just your imagination. You don’t have to accept the negative self dialogue, be the watcher of those thoughts and learn to let them go. You are braver than you believe, smarter than you think, stronger than you seem and loved more than you know.
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#15
Save your money
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#16
Your dreams are not static. It’s ok to decide the dream you had at 15 is no longer for you
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#17
Don’t “wait to get in shape”
Start working out however is enjoyable to you so you avoid health risks later. Don’t wait to have to lose 30 lbs
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#18
Take care of your teeth. It’s nice to have high standards, but it’s even better to have a friend with you and not be alone.
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#19
I’m 56. You don’t have as much time as you think you do. Don’t waste it, don’t waste a single f****** day. Do something everyday even if it’s just something for yourself. Drink plenty of water and use sunscreen. Donating blood doesn’t hurt that bad. Doing something you like for a living is more rewarding than doing something that pays even exceptionally well. I’ve done both and the former is preferable in my opinion. I’m rambling too much coffee😳😳
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#20
Fail more.
Fail all the time.
Set yourself up for failure.
Because what you will learn is that failure is not some horrible catastrophe, it’s actually a part of a process of getting better at something or getting what you want. And going ahead into failure is often how you find yourself unexpectedly succeeding faster than you expected.
And the more you fail, the more you immunize yourself against the fear of it so you can get more of it. Failure is something you actually *need* in your life to really get the things you want.
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#21
1. Upvotes and thumbsup from social media doesn’t matter. Your job title on LinkedIn doesn’t matter. **Like nobody cares.** Your children won’t care, your loved ones won’t care, your gravestone won’t say anything about it.
2. Don’t think you are the be all and end all when it comes to trends and social knowledge. 20 years from now your children will look back upon you as savages. This happens every generation. Think about context before you judge others.
3. One person already said it, **but don’t think you are so special**. The trends of parents over the past 20-30 years (saying you are perfection) isn’t helping you. Work hard, live a good life — be kind to others, admit your mistakes. (Aside: I have two kids and worked really hard to make them feel loved while simultaneously making sure they take responsibility for their actions)
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#22
You know that dream that seems nuts to pursue?
Do it now.
When you’re old, with a house and a mortgage and a dog, s**t like “I want to make a movie” get much more complicated
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#23
Dull answers, but genuine ones:
– put more into your pension than you are now
– avoid debt where you can
– don’t hold grudges
– look after your health
– learn to enjoy the now
– be nice to your parents. They might be d***s, but you’ll probably still miss them
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#24
People at work are not your friend! Even if they’re nice to you.
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#25
Enjoy your hairline/boobs, they aren’t going to get better and you will fondly look back on where they were situated when you were younger and hotter.
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#26
Keep at a healthy weight/fitness level, and do more now than sitting around waiting for later.
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#27
Stop. You won’t ever be the perfect image of yourself in your head
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#28
Once you’re out of school, don’t keep the friends who bring you down, You really don’t need that and the benefits no longer outweigh the drawbacks.
You know what I mean, the friends who only call when they need something, the ones who make you feel bad when you fail and worse when you succeed. The friends who encourage you to do things you actually don’t want to do and discourage you from growing as a person.
Focus your time and effort on your high-quality friends. It’s not about quantity anymore.
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#29
Keep active and eat well.
Basic advice can be trickier to implement than it seems. The path of least resistance is to grab the soda on the end cap at the store and to skip the gym because you’re tired today. And it’s really easy to rationalize *just for today* without recognizing what’s become a pattern.
It always seems like there’s tomorrow until the body gives out, and once that happens it can be a vicious cycle. Have seen people’s knees start to go by their mid-twenties. Have seen people go through three back surgeries in their thirties. Have seen heart attacks end it before age fifty.
So two tips:
Find a sport you really enjoy. Once you find the sport you love, dig into the wallet for good equipment. This isn’t a frivolous expense: it’s an investment in yourself.
Learn to cook from scratch. You don’t have to graze on “superfoods” from kale to purple cauliflower to whatever else is the fad this year. Instead, eat mostly healthful things and go light on the treats. This shouldn’t feel blah: if something tastes like cardboard then don’t eat it. Just aim for a reasonable balance and try to make the reasonable stuff tasty.
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#30
Don’t take yourself too seriously, whatever you do you’ll probably look back ten years later mildly mortified at how deep you thought you were.
You’re just another confused human not destined for greatness and there’s no grand scheme in which you matter one bit, so just chill.
If you have issues with your self confidence and depend on the validation of others, adress that s**t by whatever means are available to you. Nobody is going to do it for you and being insecure gets old fast.
Take care of your health. Wear sunscreen.
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