A healthy marriage is built on love, trust, communication, patience, and a willingness to compromise… But Reddit user Ok-Horror-2199 has just realized that her long-term partner wants to structure theirs primarily on real estate.
In a candid online confession, the woman said that she had been expressing her desire to get married for quite some time, but he would always avoid talking about taking their relationship to the next level — until he learned that she wanted to buy a house.
Suddenly, the prospect of a happily ever after became much clearer.
This woman thought her boyfriend wasn’t planning to marry her
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But everything changed when she informed him that she was serious about planning to buy a house
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The timelines for buying a house and dating don’t always overlap
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It may sound banal, but the key to deciding whether to invest in real estate with your partner isn’t some tricky secret known only to a handful of people — it’s the same relationship advice we’ve already heard: communication.
“Buying a house together can be a smart decision for an unmarried couple if both partners are financially stable, committed to their relationship, and share a clear vision for their future,” Lauren Kolazas, a real estate agent from Virginia, United States, told Bored Panda.
According to her, it makes sense when:
The real estate agent has spent two decades in the industry, and for those unmarried couples who want to set themselves up for success, she suggested they:
Conversely, if we flip the script, we will begin to see circumstances under which it might not be a good idea to take your unmarried partner house hunting:
While the situation our Redditor has found herself in does sound like an emotionally taxing one, the woman can try to look at it this way: she may have found out that there’s no future for her with that man. And while breakups can be incredibly difficult, parting ways due to (financial) incompatibilities early on might be better than learning about them after you’ve taken on hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of commitments.
People who read the woman’s story understand her suspicion
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