I have been married for 6 years with 2 kids and I am heavily pregnant with the third child. I started noticing strange behaviors from my husband a few weeks ago and I questioned him about it, he gave silly excuses and I let it slide, when it became too much I spoke to my friend who advised me to seek the help of a pro-tech guy, I contacted the pro-tech guy via email and he helped me gain access to my husband’s phone, I discovered he had been cheating on me with my sister, I am so depressed right now, I feel like taking my life, please what can I do?
#1
Obtain copies or screen shots of as many incriminating texts, photos and files as you can, and keep them in a safe place. Perhaps in the cloud with a good password, although your husband may be able to reset your password through your email and gain access to delete them. I’d recommend putting them on at least two USB drives and putting one in the care of a lawyer and keeping the other in a safe hiding place or with a trusted friend. This will help in divorce proceedings, and with custody arrangements and child support. I am so sorry you’ve been hurt by both your husband and your sister. I can’t imagine how crushing that is. And I’ll tell you as someone who has fought with desperate loneliness, depression and bipolar disorder most of my 50 years: I know that you know that taking your life is not an answer. Seek comfort in your children and your friends. I hope that you can find some peace and emotional healing soon.
#2
Talk to a health care provider and then see a lawyer. Best wishes
#3
My ex husband was a cheater. Took me 5 years to completely get over him. I hope you have already left.
#4
See a therapist, DO NOT TAKE YOUR LIFE, you have the joy of seeing children grow. It would be selfish to take your own life and leave 2, possibly 3, kids motherless and maybe fatherless. You need to focus on finding something that makes you happy, wether it is a form of art, video games, or something as simple as housecleaning. People care about you. Suicide is never good.
#5
Get as much evidence of any of that. Also go to court and get a divorce. You can get most of everything. Expecially for the kind of divorce it will be. That has to be one of the things I’d never forgive. I mean yeah you cheat on me with a friend or someone I don’t know, okay yeah that hurts. But I can learn to get over it. Over time. But with a family member. That kinda messed up. It not your fault. And then kids need you. Try to be tough and hang in there for your babies. I know it is hard. Very hard. But the future will be better. You can start a new and find a new love. Someone who will truly love you and take care of you. And someone who will not betray you.
With much love.
Fluffy mommy Panda
#6
I once saw a ted talk given by a therapist who specializes in sex and couples counseling. She said that, in general, men cheat in order to stay with their spouse, and women cheat because they want to leave their spouse. For men, it’s an outlet to do something they can’t do at home, right now, and it’s usually not emotional, just physical. I don’t know if that helps.
#7
if you need to ask strangers what to do, stay with him, forgive him. seriously?
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