I feel so guilty sometimes for yelling or being impatient. But am I alone? Am I messing up my kids? Why is this so hard? Pandas share your thoughts, please!
#1
Someone once told me that having those thoughts are normal and that it shows you are thoughtful about your parenting. There are no perfect parents because there aren’t perfect people. All parents were much better parents before we had kids. Meaning we yell more and lose patience more than we thought we would before kids. I don’t know of a single parent who hasn’t thought they might not be good enough. If you have the opportunity to connect with other parents IRL either in a group or informally, you will find it’s a struggle at times for many. And you won’t love it 100% of the time and that’s okay. I lose patience and yell sometimes. In those moments I wish I was a better parent but the good news is every day I get to try to be better in the areas where I need to improve.
#2
I’m a single mom going trough traumatherapie and my son has adhd and a*s.
I feel guilty a lot. I feel guilty about he not having his dad, of being tired all the time, of not spending enough time with him (even though he is always with me when he is not at school), of yelling and being unreasonably mad at him because I’m tired and he can be a handfull (I need 6 six hands and eyes in my back), I feel guilty about almost everything and feel like a bad mother almost all the time. I know he loves me and that we have really strong conection. He tells me he loves me, he is always so happy to see me and his teachers always says that he says that he misses me and things like that and he is always so happy. So probably I do something good, but the guilt is always there.
#3
Hey. I just read your comment on a different thread. I’m not a mum but an aunty and I’m a bit worried about you. Please get some help. Stay here on BP to talk and if you want, you can contact me. Hugs
#4
I am betting my aunt went to her grave feeling guilty she didn’t confront her husband for molesting me.
#5
Not a parent but my mom did this like a week ago.
8th grade grad, got some chocolate from my oldest sister. Middle sister asks for a piece when I open it. Mom says “We’ll did you offer any of yours?” referring to my sister’s BAKING dark chocolate that she used for my dad’s B-day cupcakes. Sure she ate some but she was on a two week period!
Small argument which ends in mom calling my middle sister a sour-puss and to grow up.
They have a fairly bad argument and when my dad asks about it, my mom (as usual) over exaggerates the story and trims it piece by f*****g piece to make my middle sister look like a terrible person.
My dad is (hopefully) smart enough to know she exaggerates tho.
And yes my sister is depressed and has anxiety from my mom. I’ll probably wind up the same, considering I had anxiety in 7th grade…
#6
Youngest has trauma issues from teens years I never knew about because I was so sick. They’re 21 now.
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