The last person selected in the NFL draft is traditionally called ‘Mr. Irrelevant,’ and over the decades of the league’s existence, many players have been in this position — but none have become really great (Brock Purdy, we’re still expecting…). Likewise, many of us have been in the ‘Mr. Irrelevant’ position in school, when we were picked last in the gym class.
But even as adults, this oppressive and offensive feeling doesn’t leave us — because adulthood often brings up such situations, too. When you sincerely want friendship, love, or professional recognition — and only then realize that you were simply picked… well, on a residual basis.
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#1
Someone on my team at work had a huge, fun, fancy wedding. I was the only one not invited. Every day, I get to look at the picture that sits in my boss’s office of the whole group dressed up in their finest, having a blast. I’d never say a word, but d**n, exclusion stings.
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#2
Applying for a job that you’re well-qualified for, not hearing anything back for weeks, and then seeing the position being reposted without having even a follow-up email from them.
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#3
Being left out of the group chat. Bonus points for finding out when everyone else’s phone in the room gets a text at once.
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#4
“Hey we are all going to [Insert fun activity], and [Insert other friend] just said they can’t make it. Do you want to come along?”
It’s nice, but it’s also hurtful.
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#5
Watching everyone’s birthdays get celebrated at the office. Then when your big 30th comes, no one even bothers to tell you happy birthday. Husband even brought me balloons and flowers, so they knew it was my birthday.
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#6
For me, it was when everyone went on the camping trip I initially planned. They made a separate group chat and went a week before we planned. They were too chicken s**t to tell me they invited someone else and replaced my ride to our destination. After that i stopped talking to my friends of the last 8 Years of my life. I feel a lot better. It made me realize how selfish they were
Small edit: Since i have a lot of people who think Im just a whiny a*****e. Let me clear this up. Im not saying my friends uninvited me with Malice. They just wanted room for someone else. So the easiest way was to drop me from the trip. Thats why I feel like the last to be picked. Because to them I was just a filler friend.
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#7
Being called last minute for a night out on the town just to find they need a designated driver.
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#8
Group lunches at work.
Especially when the whole group is heading out to lunch and you’re sitting at your desk and they’re either totally unaware of you at all – or worse – someone makes eye contact by accident and then is like “Oh, uh, do you want to come?”.
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#9
Only getting attention from men in bars after they have learned that all of the women I’m there with are in happy, long-term relationships.
Take your consolatory offer to buy me a drink and shove it, Brad.
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#10
Sitting at one of your stepsisters’ house on Christmas day and listening to your stepsisters and stepsister-in-law and stepmother planning a fabulous Boxing Day outing that you’re not invited to.
That happened to my wife. She’s not usually hyper sensitive socially but she cried all the way home after that.
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#11
When your friends all make plans together in front of you, and then only invite you because you just heard them make the plans.
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#12
A few years ago, a group of “friends” from church and I were discussing starting a small Bible study group. We had a couple lengthy conversations about it after Sunday services, but then I never heard any more about it. A month or so later, I found out they started a group without me. When I asked someone about it, I was told that a woman (who was not even there when we talked) had a vision during her prayer time about a small group starting that included all the other women, but not me. So basically, Jesus told her to exclude me. o.O.
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#13
Bartender ignoring you.
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#14
Celebrating your birthday and no one shows up.
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#15
Being purposely excluded from a family wedding picture. Thanks Mom.
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#16
Joining a hot yoga class for the first time, being easily 50 lbs. heavier than the heaviest person there, and having the yoga instructor completely ignore you, but focus on / communicate with the only two others in the room. Humiliating experience.
#17
“I like you a lot and I could see us together, I’m just not emotionally available to commit to a relationship right now.” or something along those lines.
The bonus is when they end up in a relationship with someone in 2 weeks after you parted ways.
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#18
Working freelance and the only phone calls you get are, “can you work in 10 hours?” Never “can you work next week?” That’s when you know you’re plan Z.
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#19
Getting added to a group chat and realize your friends/coworkers have been chatting long before you were added.
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#20
Finding out your “friends” went out on the town. They never called or texted.
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#21
No room for you in the car when everyone agrees to carpool so everyone does that awkward shifting about to make room when we all know its easier for you to go in another car.
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#22
Someone in the office showing everyone a hilarious photo on their phone. They show everyone but you. You laugh anyways cos everyone else is laughing but inside you don’t laugh.
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#23
Coworkers intentionally keeping you in the dark about things. Like free meals your employer provides and similar policies. Yeah, I’ve had that happen to me. People are d***s.
Conan did a comedy expose`piece about this kind of thing. In his office they had a special group of employees who would contact each other if some free food came in so other employees didnt get any.
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#24
Watching snapchat stories and seeing that everyone is hanging out together but you were never invited.& being the friend that people hang out with only because they have no one else.
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#25
Being laid off first in corporate cuts.
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#26
When new year’s are approaching and you haven’t been invited to anything.
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#27
People around you getting raises when you asked for one before any of them did and know you’re doing just as much if not more than they are. It is what it is, I’ve been in the “pipeline” for a raise since November. Just so happens to always be an inconvenience when I try to push for it.
#28
Being single and alone (not by choice)
Its not that nobody wants you on their baseball team, its that nobody wants to spend time with you, love you, or care about you…
Edit: While I appreciate all the love folks – actually in a pretty happy place and a loving relationship (and also don’t think you *actually* need to be a in a relationship to be happy) but if this resonates a little bit too much with any of y’all feel free to PM me.
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#29
Last time I played softball I had to be moved around four different times to different positions until they found the one that I did the least amount of damage at.
Edit: You all are so nice to me. It was a fun team full of friends and other people who were also terrible to varying degrees. I’m so glad that so many of you empathize. :).
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#30
Being picked last for a work team building exercise.
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