People Are Sharing The Red Flags They Let Slide While Dating And How It All Ended

A lot of people say that dating is a numbers game. If you keep pushing through terrible first dates, you’ll eventually find someone you magically click with.

But if you’ve already suffered through dozens of awkward dinners with strangers this year, you mustn’t let dating fatigue start to cloud your judgment.

Redditors have recently been discussing the most glaring red flags they somehow managed to ignore in relationships, so we’ve gathered some of their warnings below.

This may not be the most fun list to read, but it’s helpful reminders for anyone navigating the dating pool.

And keep reading to find conversations with the person who started this thread and a globally recognized matchmaker, Gina Hendrix!

#1

She refused to apologize for anything wrong she did, and her response would be, “Just get over it.”.

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#2

Mummy’s boys.

Never dated someone that was very very attached to their mother before and I never will again.

– It feels like there is always three of you in the relationship
– Your opinion is asked but so is mummy’s and what was the point of asking me because mummy’s answer always goes.
– The general lack of life skills, experience and independence because your mummy is still coddling you at 27.

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#3

Apologies were always “sorry you feel that way”.

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#4

After 6 months of dating she started talking about marriage. I asked, “What’s the rush?”

She looked at me with total sincerity and said, “I don’t know how much longer I can hold back the crazy!”

We have been married for 25 years.

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#5

She gave me an ultimatum early on in the relationship saying that if I didn’t change how she wanted me to she’d leave me. I was in my early 20s with very little relationship experience and absolutely infatuated with her. She went on to step on me for most of the relationship and, upon reflection, gradually wore me down over a few years. I became a version of myself that she wanted me to be.

Eventually her Mom also became toxic towards me and that was where I drew the line. I was dealing with some terrible news about a family member (diagnosed with terminal cancer) and was told my emotions didn’t matter and I should deal with them myself. I asked for a break from her and she ghosted me.

Been 5+ years. Very happily single, thriving in my career, and just got into my dream grad program. Don’t know if I’m meant to find love in this existence but feel happy for what I have in my life. That relationship did a lot of damage to my psyche and I’m starting to finally feel like myself again which is nice. Can finally say I love myself again.

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#6

When I was younger, my GF (very short relationship, a few months) kept spending the night at her friend’s house, who was married with kids. She broke up with me to steal the friend’s husband, who she later married, then surprise surprise, divorced. I’ve been married once, coming up to 20 years. Karma.

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#7

She had been engaged three times and married once for 8 months. All before age 24. Ended poorly – we weren’t having s*x, wanted to wait, and she got pregnant by a “friend”. Tried to entice me into s*x but I held strong because she was the one that wanted to wait, then she came clean. Really dodged a bullet on that one. I think she’s remarried and divorced multiple times over since then. So glad that I wasn’t in that lineup.

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#8

She treated people in public like s**t, talked about everyone behind their back, came home everyday talking about co workers, her family was always “fighting” with her. Yeah she was the piece of s**t not everyone else.

She practically begged me and cried for almost 3 years to take her back. Never once contemplated it.

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#9

Being left in the middle of discussion or being neglected while crying or hurt. he can sleep peacefully while I’m crying. I ignored that s**t for how many times. And it turned out that I lost myself, and I’m drained. now we broke up, feels nothing. because I’m already tired and just want to regain myself.

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#10

When she snooped through my phone to find nothing and told me I was boring. It was her way of saying that she has a lot to hide.

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#11

He told me he had a special talent for manipulating people to get them to do what he wants for him.

Went about just as tumultuous as one would expect until lo and behold it’s revealed he’s a sociopath! Who knew! 😅.

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#12

Said she was SA’d by previous partners. One night we did the deed but she regretted it so she put me on blast on social media saying I did that to her.

Pattern recognition yall.

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#13

They constantly badmouthed all their exes… turns out, I became “one of the crazy ones” too after we broke up.

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#14

He ignored a lack of consent. Then dumped me few months later because I didn’t trust him enough to sleep with him. I should’ve broken up with him much earlier. Or reacted in any other way than trying to forgive and forget. I guess I cared too much.

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#15

Told me she had cheated on previous partners. Then proceeded to cheat on me.

Now that a I think about it, I should’ve broken up with her waaay earlier than I did.

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#16

She was so hard to get a hold of. Honestly, the easiest way was talking to her on Myspace. But when we were together we had a good time. She seemed to really like me and enjoy my company.

Fast forward to trying to message her one day. Her status on Myspace all of a sudden said “married” and she had a bunch of pictures up from her wedding that past weekend. Became so clear I could not believe I didn’t put it together earlier. She was engaged.

Turns out she was hooking up with me on the side while engaged. I wrote her “So, married huh?” her response? “Sigh, I knew this was coming”.

As far as I know now she is like single with 5 kids, so might have lucked out.

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#17

She “accidentally” k*lled her family dog.

Supposedly, she was pulling up in the driveway, and noticed the dog laying down in the driveway. The dog was old, and had mobility issues. She expected the dog would move out of the way, before her car came to a stop. Unfortunately the dog didn’t move, and the dog died. Why she didn’t stop the car a couple of feet away from the dog, I have no idea.

She told this to me completely out of the blue, and didn’t have any emotion whatsoever when telling me this.

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#18

His frequent habit to yell at me to GTFO of his place when he lost what little patience he had. Very often in fact. I also didn’t kick him out when he would do this at my apartment. I let him kick me out of my own room, in my own apartment. I did not deserve to be yelled at and spoken to so disrespectfully.

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#19

She was insecure about everything.

Badly.

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#20

Mega narcissist. Always had an excuse gor anything ever messed up she did.

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#21

Lack of emotions and thought they could do no wrong.
Very very bad.

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#22

He would “push” me to work out at first when I had said I wanted to lose weight (which was helpful bc I was struggling with my depression) but then it turned to a guilt trip on days where I didn’t want to go to the gym. Or make me go do cardio on my rest days. And he would get upset if I didn’t go and tell me I had disappointed him. Then he was watching my food and commenting on what I was eating. Making me feel bad if I ate too many calories because I wanted to lose weight and I didn’t care about my goals etc. got to the point where I didn’t want to eat in front of him or I would lie about what I was eating or start binging when he wasn’t around. He’s now my ex (thank GOD) and I can see so many more controlling tendencies he had in other aspects. Oh and a weird little eating disorder lol.

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#23

Her absolutely overbearing stalker like father. Monitoring her every move and what she/we were doing at all times. First night I stayed over at her apartment he was there the next morning waiting outside, he told me never to come back, and he had a gun with him.

She was 28 and I was 29. Literally grown adults.

I let that one go right then and there.

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#24

> Me: Honey, what time is it?

> Her: Why — are we late?

No, honey, I just need to know the time. She couldn’t even process a thought without first assuming she was to blame for something. Turns out her a*****e, alcoholic mother had deeply traumatised her as a child, and she was determined not to seek help. Imagine having a regular talk about finances with her…

To answer your second question: after four years we broke up, and I learned that she was staying with her mother but recently got kicked out by said mother.

Poor woman.

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#25

He joked that id do well if i lasted even a month with him. took it as a joke at the time. should have taken this warning seriously and quit back then and there.

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#26

“I dont deserve you.”
“You’re too good for me.”
He was right, he was telling the truth.

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#27

She wouldn’t do even small favors or help others before they had helped her.

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#28

The fact that he admitted he didn’t miss ANY of his family. Not even his younger brother and sister. There was a weird detachment between him and everyone else and even everything. He didn’t miss ANYTHING he’d abandoned at his mum’s house….turns out he abandoned his son with just as much ease….