We all want to show ourselves as the best versions we can be, especially when meeting new people, at work or on a date. But there’s just so much that we can fake it.
Our true selves will start to open up sooner or later, and it’s not always pretty. This thought-provoking Ask Reddit thread shone a light on the most important red flags that reveal a person may not be as nice as they pretend to be.
“What’s a dead giveaway that someone is not a good person?” the Redditor Ricky1g asked people and below we wrapped up some of the most interesting responses.
#1
Treats animals poorly
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#2
How someone treats another person based on their job title. Anyone who treats a server, maid, garbage person, etc like c**p is just telling the world how much a piece they are.
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#3
They make fun of someone with a disability
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#4
Nothing is ***ever*** their fault.
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#5
They don’t concede defeat after a full snd fair election and encourage violence to attempt to subvert democracy.
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#6
They say ”go back to your country”.
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#7
It’s always about them.
They’re always the hero or always the victim in their stories.
Can’t take criticism but probably dish it out to everyone else.
They’re never wrong.
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#8
throwing trash out of a car window, littering
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#9
Seeing as half of these comments are not actually describing *bad* people, I’m going to go ahead and say people who constantly judge others on the minor flaws in their character.
Some people have very low self esteem, some people have ADHD, some people are trying to unlearn toxic traits that they were brought up with. Nobody is perfect and it’s never so black and white. If you instantly write someone off as a bad person because they cut you off while you’re talking, they always talk about themselves etc then you’re going to be in for a shock because most adult human beings have flaws in their character. With a bit of patience and open mindedness you can overlook these and maybe find some amazing qualities.
Me personally I find it really hard to gel with people who constantly pick at other peoples characters for minor things. Sure, let’s string up the sex offenders and murderers. But that woman in the office that you can’t stand because she seems rude when you talk to her might just have crippling social anxiety, and talking to you might just make her feel like she’s being dragged through glass. You think she’s a b***h but behind closed doors she struggles to leave the house every day. Not so black and white.
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#10
They constantly say or do things where their only justification for doing so is “*It was just a joke*” when called out on it.
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#11
When they cannot bring themselves to celebrate someone else’s success.
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#12
If they are willing to gaslight you. I have memory problems due to MS, and when someone is willing to bend your reality there is a huge moral issue happening.
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#13
When you express a boundary, they try to guilt trip you, pressure you, or threaten you to try and force you to do things you don’t want to do.
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#14
In my experience, if they begin a statement with “well, as a christian…” they’re a PoS person. (Not because they’re christian, there are good ones out there, but these people are just hiding behind their faith)
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#15
I guess a subtle one is them treating you differently in public vs how they treat you privately. These can both go either way.
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#16
They are mean to animals or hate animals for no reason. I certainly understand allergies and that is a VERY good reason not to be around animals. I am talking about HATING animals. ALL animals for no reason.
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#17
How they talk about their significant other/spouse/partner/whatever. If you talk s**t about the person you supposedly love, you are a giant mountain of garbage.
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#18
Confederate flags on their car, property, or tattooed on their body are a good indicator.
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#19
If they brag about how they pulled a fast one on other people. As if to say how smart/slick they are and everyone else is stupid.
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#20
Someone who yells at you for crying
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#21
If they veil insulting, derogatory or generally aggressive comments as humor.
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#22
MAGA hat.
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#23
When a person needs to explain to you in a conversation that they are actually a good person.
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#24
They don’t put the shopping cart back in the corral once they’re done with it
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#25
They steal from you
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#26
They never apologize.
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#27
Treating people well only if they can benefit from them in some way. If they treat you well, but treat random people like s**t, they aren’t good people. And they’ll treat you like s**t too if you ever stop being of use to them.
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#28
Thinking that their own convenience is more important than others inconvience.
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#29
There’s a lot of hints
A very subtle one is them walking on wet floors in front of the cleaning person without apologizing
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#30
I’ve always held that if someone gossips TO you then they’ll most surely gossip ABOUT you to others.
Also, if someone tells you something that they were told in confidence then you absolutely cannot trust them to keep anything you tell them to themselves, even if asked to.
Big red flags.
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#31
People who are always trying to manipulate a situation from the smallest things to the bigger issues. It is exhausting to be around them.
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#32
Constantly interrupting. Worse : not listening.
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#33
Idolizing serial killers. I was perplexed when I saw fan pages for Jeffrey Dahmer, Richard Ramirez, or the Columbine Shooters on Twitter.
Or, Kicking your child out of the house for no reason once they turn 18 years old.
Also, I’m not sure if this is a controversial take, but if the Bible or any religious stuff serves as your source of morality, you are not a good person imo.
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#34
A former coworker of mine showed herself to be completely psychotic on her first day.
The entire day everything seemed normal, then right at the end of the day she came into my office laughing hysterically because she had to show me a video.
It was a video of a guy jumping off a water tower. She said “He bounced real good” with the most maniacal grin on her face. She didn’t last long.
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#35
A lot of times they’ll straight up tell you. Anybody who gleefully tells you “I’m such an a*****e” or “I’m such a b***h” is usually not joking, even if they say it while laughing.
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