Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over

Living in a blended family can come with a whole host of unpredictable problems, as it involves different people coming together and trying to get along. There might even be power struggles between stepparents and stepkids as they try to establish their position in this new family.

This is the situation a woman found herself in because her stepson, who had been living in the annex to their house, kept coming over and being disorderly. She felt frustrated by his behavior and wanted to ban him from coming into the main home.

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Stepparents and stepkids might not always get along, but they should do their best to bridge any gaps that might be between them

Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over

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The poster shared that her 17-year-old stepson had been living with them full-time for about 4 months, and he stayed in their fully equipped garden annex

Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over

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The woman found it tough to get along with her stepson because he was messy, lazy, and expected everything to be done for him

Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over

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The teen also kept coming over to the main house and disturbing everyone with his demands, which made his stepmom feel annoyed

Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over

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The poster couldn’t deal with her stepson’s behavior anymore and wanted to ban him from coming into the main home

Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over

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Since the woman’s partner kept making excuses for his son, stating that a lot of his behavior was due to anxiety, the poster didn’t know what to do

It’s clear that the poster’s stepson was given a lot of free rein and allowed to do as he pleased because he had quit school and spent most of his time doing whatever he wanted to. Since his dad was hardly present and kept making excuses for him, the teen didn’t have anyone to hold him accountable. 

That’s exactly why it’s important for parents to pay attention to what their children are doing and intervene if their behavior is getting out of hand. Parenting experts state that once kids realize that their rude actions are getting a pass, they might keep behaving the same way, as they probably know that nobody will stop them.

The OP also must have realized that her stepson’s behavior was crossing a line because he left everything in a mess, partook in substances, demanded she cook for him, and was generally rude when confronted. The problem is that she couldn’t do much about his actions since her partner kept making excuses for him.

This is a classic dilemma that many stepparents find themselves in, where they aren’t able to discipline their stepkids, as their partner or spouse isn’t supporting them through it. Even seasoned stepparents say that this kind of situation can make people feel helpless and annoyed, and like they aren’t able to set rules or have enough parental power.

Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over

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The poster finally reached her breaking point because her stepson kept disturbing her child over and over again and demanding she cook him dinner. Since she had to deal with this behavior on her own, the OP knew she really had to do something about it before things escalated even further.

The unfortunate part of all of this was that the woman truly started disliking her stepson and didn’t know what to do about those feelings. Family therapists state that such feelings are normal, especially when stepchildren might have significant behavioral issues and act out more often than not.

It’s definitely not ideal to have a dysfunctional relationship with a partner’s children, but it also doesn’t mean that one should force themselves to act like everything is okay. The best thing to do in such situations is to seek therapy for oneself and for the child so that there is objective and professional support for any conflicts that might arise.

The poster probably hadn’t considered therapy for her stepson, as his dad truly didn’t seem to be interested in solving the problem, which is why she couldn’t make the decision on her own. Her only option was to ban him from coming over to the main house, which would probably lead to him having an even worse attitude.

What do you think would be the right course of action to take in this situation? Do you feel the OP is right to think of banning her stepson from the house? Let us know your honest opinion.

People were mad at the poster for wanting to ban her stepson and felt that his dad had been wrong to leave him to his own devices in the annex

Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over
Stepson Doesn’t Follow House Rules At All, Infuriated Stepmom Wants Him To Stop Coming Over

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