It will take a different level of fortitude, strength, and patience to suddenly assume the role of the head of the family. Not only are you tasked with running the household and everything that comes with it, but you must also manage different personalities and egos.
A man learned this the hard way when he took on the provider role after his father passed away. A major family issue arose after one of his sisters rushed into marriage and demanded he pay for the wedding.
He had to decline out of necessity, but it only led to more sibling drama.
It can be challenging to reason with someone who refuses to look at the bigger picture
Image credits: user25451090 (not the actual image)
This is what happened when a man dealt with his younger sister’s demands
Image credits: freepic.diller (not the actual image)
He had to turn her down out of necessity, but it only led to more sibling drama
Image credits: freepik (not the actual image)
However, he still wondered whether he was in the wrong
Image credits: bob_1k999
There is a higher likelihood of conflict between the mature sibling and the “eternal child”
The author underwent an immediate maturation after he had to assume his father’s responsibilities. Meanwhile, based on his account, his sister May seemed to have gone the exact opposite route.
It is what analytical psychology (a.k.a. Jungian psychology) calls the “eternal child”: a person who may detest boundaries, limits, or even commitment.
“They have a lot of ideas about what they can do in the future, but rarely put in the hard work to make their dreams come true,” said psychotherapist Imi Lo.
Lo went on to explain that the “Mature One,” on the other hand, is all about what they “should do” rather than going for something they want or feel passionately about. Lo adds that mature siblings act the way they do “because absolute compliance is what was once required of them.”
This is where the clash begins. According to Lo, the complex dynamics can easily turn into adult sibling rivalry due to envy. In the story, May began comparing herself to her older sister, Rose, which may have evoked feelings of jealousy and bitterness.
While adult sibling conflict may be normal, it can deepen resentment if left unaddressed. According to licensed marriage and family therapist Kalley Hartman, one sign that the relationship is salvageable is the willingness to communicate.
The author didn’t specify whether he had further discussions with his sister, but in such conflicts, Hartman advises discussing expectations through honest conversations, particularly focusing on how the relationship will function moving forward. Most importantly, she emphasized the importance of owning up to mistakes.
In this case, the author did the right thing by setting boundaries, considering their financial situation. It’s something May must learn to come to terms with.
The author provided more information in the comments
Many readers sided with him
However, a few people somehow found fault in what he did
Follow Us
