“It’s over.” Sometimes, a relationship ends after months or even years of growing apart, broken promises, or unresolved arguments. Other times, though, it takes just one sentence to make someone stop and think, Well, that’s it, I’m done. Maybe the person said something cruel, revealed a side of themselves you’d never seen before, or simply did something that completely changed the way you looked at them. Whatever the reason, some words are impossible to take back.
For today’s collection, we dove into a thread asking, “What’s the one thing someone said that instantly made you think, ‘Yep, this relationship is over’?” From shockingly insensitive comments to bizarre questions about whether men are allowed to cry, the answers range from heartbreaking and frustrating to downright unbelievable. Keep scrolling, Pandas, to see the exact moments when people realized their relationships had reached the point of no return.
#1
Nothing hurts like indifference.
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#2
That i needed to suck it up and move on because i was acting like a zombie and never laughed anymore- 4 months after we lost our child.
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#3
“You’re too sensitive.” Hearing that every time I brought up something that hurt me eventually told me nothing was going to change.
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“He/She was cheating on me.” Sadly, infidelity is one of the most common reasons relationships come to an end, and it’s easy to understand why. A relationship is built on trust, and once that trust is broken, rebuilding it can feel incredibly difficult. Cheating can leave the other person questioning not only what happened, but also everything they thought they knew about the relationship. Even when both partners genuinely want to move forward, it often takes honesty, accountability, patience, and a lot of uncomfortable conversations to repair the damage. For some couples, healing together is possible. For others, however, the betrayal becomes something they simply can’t move past.
#4
Me: “you promised you wouldn’t hang with her” (referring to a girl who was tryna hit on him)
Him: “well promises are meant to be broken”.
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#5
“I can’t post you on Instagram because I’d lose my followers” and “I can’t let my simps know I have a bf”
This one sucked because I really loved this girl. You’d think this was said by someone in her early 20s, but nope, we’re both in our 30s.
#6
Friend and her husband were in couple’s counseling. She asked him if he even loved her. He paused and said “Well, I don’t hate you…”
That was the nail in the coffin of that marriage.
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But cheating is far from the only reason relationships fall apart. Sometimes, the problems run much deeper and are connected to how people approach closeness, intimacy, and emotional security in the first place. In Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment, Amir Levine and Rachel Heller explore three primary adult attachment styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant.
According to the book, these styles can influence how people behave when they feel close to someone or fear losing them. Secure individuals generally feel comfortable with intimacy and are more likely to communicate their needs openly. Anxious individuals, meanwhile, may be especially sensitive to signs of rejection or abandonment. They can find themselves constantly wondering whether something is wrong, particularly when their partner suddenly becomes distant or less responsive.
#7
He blamed me for our finances. I was laid off. I had been out of work for 3 weeks. He spent money like it magically replenished. He blamed me when he couldn’t keep the spending up. I hadn’t gotten my first unemployment check and he already had his eye on gaming stuff.
When I spent that money on food and utilities he blew up and told me _I was his only problem._
I moved out when he went to work the next day. He never contacted me again. That crushed me. We were planning a future.
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#8
“That’s what’s wrong with the world today…men want to cry and be held.” This was when we were watching the Barbie movie. I laughed because she surely she was joking, but her straight face told me she was not.
I don’t accept toxic masculinity from my male friends, I’m definitely not about to accept it from my girlfriend.
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#9
You’re lucky I put up with you.
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Avoidant individuals, on the other hand, may experience too much closeness as a threat to their independence. Even when they genuinely care about their partner, they can unconsciously create emotional distance to feel more comfortable and in control. This might involve focusing heavily on a partner’s small flaws, becoming distant after moments of intimacy, or keeping certain thoughts and feelings to themselves.
Naturally, this can be confusing and painful for the person on the receiving end. One minute, everything may seem perfectly fine, and the next, their partner appears to be pulling away for reasons they don’t understand. Over time, that constant emotional push and pull can leave both people feeling frustrated. What begins as two people trying to protect themselves can eventually become a pattern that damages the relationship.
#10
When I was having a heated argument over the phone with my then girlfriend at the time and she literally mocked me over mourning my late little brother who had recently passed away in a motorcycle accident.
I knew right away my feelings for her instantly changed and that wasn’t something I’d be able to forgive.
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#11
“I think I love her too, I just need time to figure it out”
“So can you leave me alone to do that” as I bawled uncontrollably with our toddler asleep on my chest. Found out he had been talking to someone multiple times a day for 9 months while we were living with his mother. 2 months ago. Should have just up and left then… 17 years together and 4 kids.
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#12
He was drunk and laughed about stuff that happened on my childhood. The next day I said it was over because of what he was saying. His excuse was, he was drunk and can’t remember.
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The book also discusses what is often called the “anxious-avoidant trap,” a difficult cycle that can make a relationship feel like an emotional roller coaster. The anxious partner may seek more closeness and reassurance, while the avoidant partner responds by pulling further away. Unfortunately, that distance can make the anxious partner even more worried, causing them to pursue their partner even harder. And so, the cycle continues.
One way to interrupt this pattern is through clear and honest communication rather than mind games, blame, or guessing what the other person needs. Being able to say, “This is how I feel, and this is what I need,” can reveal a lot about whether two people can meet each other halfway. Sometimes, better communication can strengthen a relationship. Other times, it may reveal an incompatibility that neither person can fix alone.
#13
My ex was into extreme sports (mountain biking, multi-day backcountry skiing with avalanche risks). I kept convincing him to take a life insurance in case he breaks his neck and ends up disabled. During fights over this life insurance I told him that I wanted him to make sure the money would cover the salary of a nurse because I didn’t want to be stuck wiping him alone my whole life if something happened. I know 2 people who passed away doing the activities he was doing. He told me that I was only after the insurance money for myself.
I took all of my stuff and loaded them in my car right there and then. Didn’t even want to explain myself further.
Ain’t no man gonna tell me I’m a gold digger while labour-digging me.
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#14
I used to have this dear friend to my heart from back in Uni years. We used to take classes together for few years. After graduation, naturally, each became busy in their own life. I did however try to reach out and check on him from time to time with a phone call. Twice I called him to do the usual overdue checking and I tried to ask to meet in my town and got hit with “you are too far it’s not worth it” on 2 different occasions. I knew my old buddy is gone and I am talking to a different person now. It’s sad, but part of life, personalities change and corrode.
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#15
I was casually describing something to my girlfriend, and I said something cost “a couple bucks”. The real cost was something $3.15 .
She immediately interrupted me with “It didn’t cost two dollars.”
“Uh, what?”
“You said ‘a couple’ bucks. A couple means two. It didn’t cost two dollars.”
It was like I got hit with flood-lights. Boom. I know what this is.
This woman isn’t actually emotionally here with me, she is just lying-in-wait looking for opportunities, *any* opportunity, to belittle me and cut me down, because she wants me to get tired of her and break things off because she is too much of a coward to do it herself.
I stopped trying to tell the story, just looked at her and said “Do you even want to be with me anymore?”
She started crying. The answer was “no”.
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Unresolved conflict and lingering resentment can also slowly push a couple apart. Every relationship has disagreements, of course, and arguing occasionally doesn’t automatically mean a relationship is doomed. The real issue is often what happens after the argument. Do both people talk things through and try to find a solution, or do they simply sweep the problem under the rug and pretend nothing happened?
According to research published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, couples who avoid dealing with conflict directly may face a greater risk of relationship dissatisfaction. It’s not necessarily the number of arguments that matters most, but how partners handle them. When hurt feelings and frustrations are repeatedly ignored, they can quietly turn into resentment. Eventually, those unresolved issues may create an emotional wall between two people who were once incredibly close.
#16
He was driving MY car, with MY dog in the back seat, and got into a road rage, and brake checked a big pickup truck. Nope.
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#17
“I mean, forever is a long time. I would try my best not to cheat on you.”.
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#18
” wyd” at 12:43 am after ghosting me for 5 days knowing i had a power outage. who needs enemies with ” lovers ” like this. im glad its over tho.
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Another common reason relationships end is the loss (or absence) of an emotional connection. Physical attraction and chemistry can bring two people together, but emotional intimacy is often what helps them feel truly connected over time. It’s built through shared experiences, vulnerable conversations, trust, and simply taking the time to understand one another. When that connection begins to fade, a relationship can start feeling strangely lonely, even when both people are still together. You might share a home, eat dinner at the same table, and sleep in the same bed, yet feel as though your partner no longer truly knows you. Without emotional intimacy, relationships can gradually begin to feel distant, repetitive, or superficial. And sometimes, people don’t realize how disconnected they’ve become until the relationship is already in serious trouble.
#19
One night when I had a very bad cough I was coughing very harshly. I had difficulty sleeping.
At about 4o’clock, after a very prolonged
Coughing spell, he yelled, “Do you HAVE to do that.? It sounds like a sick seal.”
I just said yes, I did have to do it. I got through the rest of the night and then called a church friend the next day. She let me stay with her three months until I found another place to live.
We tried counseling in those months but he did not see a problem with his words and tone
We eventually divorced.
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#20
When I was told, “If one of us doesn’t remember something, I expect us to drop it”. At the time it didn’t register just how much that bothered me until they started conveniently forgetting a lot of things.
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#21
“I don’t want to be with someone who is sick.” When I was having an eczema flare up for the first time ever. Extra great- we were engaged and it was a 10+ year relationship.
There was a whole lot of other things that were said, but that one really took the cake.
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Money troubles can also put enormous pressure on even loving relationships. After all, finances affect many of the biggest decisions couples make, from where they live and how they spend their free time to whether they can afford children, travel, or major purchases. Problems can arise when partners have completely different attitudes toward saving and spending. One person might be carefully putting money aside for the future while the other believes life is too short not to enjoy it now. Financial secrecy can make things even more complicated, especially when someone hides debt, savings, purchases, or other important information. Arguments over who pays for what can also create feelings of unfairness and resentment. Love may be priceless, but unfortunately, relationships still have bills to pay.
#22
“please just give me a child. you won’t even have to be their mother, I’ll take care of them” in what world would that work?
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#23
“I have options now.” Said after I supported her while she was unemployed for two years. She had received a 100K inheritance and got herself a new Jeep the week before. I heard she crashed it.
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#24
“I slept with someone else and can’t decide who to be with.”
Girl, you already did. Bye!
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These are only a few of the many reasons relationships can end, because every couple (and every breakup) is different. Some relationships end suddenly after one shocking revelation, while others slowly unravel over months or even years. Whatever the reason, breakups are rarely easy, even when you know leaving was the right decision.
Research published in the Journal of Family Psychology has found that breakups can increase psychological distress and reduce life satisfaction, with the effects sometimes lasting for months or even years afterward. Losing a relationship can mean losing routines, shared dreams, friendships, and the future you imagined for yourself. That’s why it’s completely normal for people to need time to process what happened. Healing doesn’t follow a neat schedule, and there is no “correct” amount of time to move on.
#25
“I don’t want to change.” No interest in personal growth, repair, or accountability of any kind. Bye.
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#26
He made a “joke” about my then 16 yr old daughter that was highly inappropriate. Blocked him on everything immediately, never talked to him again.
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#27
I was the one who let our dog out if he wanted out in the middle of the night or was sick or anything. Obviously only ever happened occasionally.
I was so shattered in the early postpartum stage with our son as I was doing basically everything, that I passed out in bed each night and one night my dog’s barking just didn’t wake me up.
He woke me up though. Snarling at me at 1am “so I guess I’ll be getting up then eh? Pathetic” it went on for a few minutes.
I was horrified. It had been me literally every other time apart from this. I hadn’t heard our dog. He openly admitted and laughed about ignoring the barking and pretending to be asleep when our dog woke me up, I never did that.
I brought up the next day how it was unacceptable and he just laughed and said “it was the middle of the night, I was half asleep, I didn’t know what I was saying”
TBH that was just one of many things but he is an impossible person. I have the lovely dog still. He doesn’t GAF.
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The most important thing is to give yourself the space and time you need to heal while remembering that not every relationship is meant to be saved. In some situations, walking away may be far healthier than staying and hoping they will eventually change. And, as the stories in today’s post show, there are moments when one sentence can suddenly make everything crystal clear. So, Pandas, which of these breakup stories made you think, “Yep, I would have left too”?
#28
“I like to choose the clothes my partners wear.”.
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#29
“When you come back, I’ll be gone” — partner of 12 years, dropping me off at the airport to visit my dad two weeks after my mom had passed away. Partner moved to an apartment a few blocks away, wouldn’t tell me where, and expected our relationship to continue. Nope.
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#30
I am obsessed with my mother, I will never choose you above her.
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#31
“I want to have children” Sadly we got along amazingly otherwise but I’ve never wanted and never will have kids. It was either she got what she wanted or I got what I wanted. There was no inbetween. I couldn’t take that away from her so I left.
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#32
“Don’t even talk to me about my drinking.” It still hurts years later. So much lost potential.
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#33
10 days after I gave birth, my husband started screaming at me and telling me how much he hates me and that he wishes he left me years ago. Also took our baby to go see his parents for 6 hours while I was having a mental breakdown and asking him not to take her. This was a baby he wanted and we had been together for 18 years (since we were 18). I kicked him out a few weeks ago and he cries everyday and is in therapy now but like a little too late.
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#34
He’s my worst critics. He kept a score on my decisions and kept reminding (threatening) me that my score is now on a negative side. Mind you the negative score was when i decided to pick up my sister at the airport it’s slightly far from my house and he say it was such a bad decision. I was just helping as i am available on that weekend. He goes really hard on me and critics me by saying “this is reflecting very bad on you right now” “on the long run my views on you has become negative”. He basically hating on me. Being an emotional bully. I end up crying over this as i felt judged all the time, felt like i was in an examination kept getting scored over my decisions. As im writing this i just realised how stupid this relationship really is. There really is no love anymore. I finally blocked him everywhere because I realised i cant be crying my life away. I dont consent being criticised over everything i do. I’m just a human. I made mistakes but having a partner that grill on you like discipline school teacher and keeping score on my behaviour is really taking a toll on my wellbeing.
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#35
When I told him I felt emotionally unsafe with him and he said “well sorry I guess!” And went off on me for ‘accusing him of being a piece of trash’ and then left the house. He also claimed that I was misunderstanding/mishearing/misremembering him every time I took issue with literally anything he did or said.
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#36
Ooo the 2 guys I met before my now husband had some good ones that were very unexpected.
Boyfriend of a year: “I know you just started your last semester of college, but I think I can provide for us. I think you should drop out and move in with me.” We lived 6 hours apart. He did the grunt work at a ski resort.
Guy that lived 2 hours away that I was enjoying talking to. After I excitedly told him about a New Year’s Eve Party my friends and I were going to: “You’re not allowed to go. There will be other boys there. You’re mine now.” This was after one date. :)
(looking back, I think he used “your” instead and that made me cringe even more).
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#37
I told her I wanted to slow things down physically and focus on getting to know each other better, because we were having issues understanding each other emotionally.
Her immediate response was to accuse me of cheating on her.
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#38
We weren’t living together at the time – he was unemployed for almost 2 years, and was always hanging out at my place (given that he lived with his parents at 39). I got myself one silk pillowcase to reduce frizz and improve my skin. During our next fight about something else, he said that if it were him, and he only had one silk pillow, he would give it to me…
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#39
“I don’t care how you feel” That would be enough for me.
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#40
In the end he didn’t have to say anything.
He had said and done tons of horrible things to me but for some stupid reason I was still his advocate. Still trying to be at least his friend.
He had a terrible temper and had a habit of getting into trouble with it. We had already had issues with the neighbors with him costing us thousands of dollars in legal fees.
He had just gotten done with the last court incident a couple months before. Cost so much money and he was lucky he wasn’t sent to jail. The judge told him, very directly, any more incidents and he would go to prison.
July 4th 2020. It was already a crazy 4th. With Covid and firework displays cancelled everyone and their mother were setting off their own fireworks. He was outside at the grill and he and the neighbors started up.
He came inside, grabbed something, and started to go back outside. I tried to stop him by the front door. I yelled “No! No! No!” before he pushed me aside into the wall and continued outside. He didn’t say a word.
That was the moment I knew it was over and I couldn’t go on with this life. It was never going the change unless it was to get worse.
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#41
He got angry when I tried to excitedly share I knew a knife prep technique.
The rage in his eyes on our second date told me everything.
He angrily said “fine, I won’t show you.” This was a 35 year old man. On a second date. In my home.
I should have known he did not have the capacity I sought
Still tried my best.
Btw, found out he chases minor and young women. So always look for flags and be aggressive with your boundaries.
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#42
Me: “Do you even love me?”
Her: “Do I have to answer all of your questions?”
Not the best thing to hear from the mother of your child but what can ya do? Lol.
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#43
Watched a truck roll over in front of us, several times, on a dark highway in the middle of a blizzard, and she immediately said, “Don’t stop.”.
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#44
So this might out me as a bad person, but I suffer from BPD and before I was medicated my relationships were VERY messy (not to say they’re perfect these days but I’m working on it). I would often accuse my partners of not being faithful, trying to leave me, abandoning me, that sort of thing. Most of the time they would fight back, but once they stopped fighting my accusations, I knew it was over.
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#45
I was young so there were a lot of things said then that I wouldn’t let slide now, but I distinctly remember her saying, “Therapy is great and all, but I don’t want you doing it. I want you to talk to me.”
Ah yes…the licensed therapist right out of highschool.
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#46
I loved my ex husband and I regret that we split pretty much every day of my life but the minute I knew we were in big trouble was when I called to tell him I got a $2k raise at work and the first words out of his mouth were “I’m gonna make more money this year.”
He was an engineer making almost four times what I was making as a receptionist and I was so excited because it was my first raise at my first office job. Then I got home and looked around at our apartment and thought “you know, I could just about afford this place on my own” and that was the beginning of the end. He just got so focused on competing with me and everyone around him he lost sight of what was important.
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#47
“And don’t you say a word either or I’ll put you on the streets”….as I’m feeding our baby breakfast.
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#48
Been together with her over 4 years and I was trying to plan a vacation together with her since she got me Airbnb gift cards.
Her response “Why not pick something that you and someone else would like to go instead of trying to figure out something I’d like to join on?”
Broke up with her that night. She was always doing stuff with her sister and friends over me and that was the moment of clarity I needed.
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#49
One of many fights with my then partner, I conjured up the courage to tell her “I’m tired of being made to feel like I’m lesser”, to which she replied “have you ever stopped to consider that you ARE lesser?”
That moment was mask off enough to shatter all the illusions I’d built around her, and gave me the push I needed to pull myself away from her.
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#50
“Yeah we have been together so long we decided it was time to either break up or get married.”
-said the groom at the wedding reception(it was one of my husbands friends…needless to say it did not last long).
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#51
“I hate you, I loathe you” pretty consistent on different occasions, apologizes after, and then repeats again.
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#52
Mine wasn’t a romantic relationship. I described my chronic pain with fibromyalgia to an aunt on the phone. She started laughing, and kept laughing. I was stunned, and then eventually hung up. Slam dunk over.
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#53
When she said she wanted a divorce and I felt relieved.
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#54
During a heated argument when future children were mentioned: „if we make a child it will be MY child”.
One of many pleasantries but this one was definitely the deciding factor.
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#55
She called my boss when I was at work to make sure I was there. That was the final straw after months of her asking how many women I worked with, if I talked to them, if I fancied them etc. she had a laundry list of insecurities clearly but calling my boss, who then confronted me about it when I’m in the middle of a shift, that was that.
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#56
Was with this woman for over a year we discussed her & her son in with me. Out of the blue she changed her mind and wanted me to move up north. That presented a problem for me as I have joint custody of my daughter (5 or 6 at the time) and I was not willing to move away and lose my time with her. Instead of a rational discussion her response was “her mother is married, he has already replaced you, you dont matter in her life.”
We were at a nice restaurant, i didnt say another word. I finished my dinner drove her home and never looked back.
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#57
Situation with my wife just yesterday. „So that guy that out daughter was talking about every day during the Holiday you two spent last week. He seems line a great guy?“ – „yeah, we connected over many things“ – „seems like a great match for you?“ – „I don’t know, yeah, maybe“.
That was on top of overspending by 66% on our agreed budget and calling me all sorts of things during their vacation.
Yeah, I’m done.
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#58
Taking the deepest vulnerability I shared with them in confidence and using it as a punchline during a petty argument.
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#59
When asked what she did for work, she replied ” ‘I’m a stay at home girlfriend”.
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#60
“Why did that feel like this was our last Valentine’s Day together?”
Said by my STBXW right after returning from (what I thought was) a lovely evening. Dinner, drinks, games, deep conversation, and an interactive showing of The Princess Bride.
Our relationship ended in my mind as soon as she said that, because I had been giving everything I could to keep us afloat. Doing all the chores, cooking all the meals, paying all the bills (I was unemployed, so bills were paid with my savings, investments, and ultimately my retirement accounts).
I was hoping that something would change in her during the separation process, but she just got more and more selfish. I looked back at our relationship and realized that’s who she always had been, and trying to continue the relationship would only hurt me more.
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