The sad thing about being a woman is that you inherently get exposed to some mistreatment, which is beyond unfair. Yes, we’re talking about misogyny today.
To be more specific, today we’re going to put a spotlight on women who’ve shared their experiences of misogyny in the wild. Be warned, the stories are quite upsetting and enraging, especially if you can relate to them. Still, they must be talked about, so jump in!
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#1
I don’t know if I am allowed to comment for my fiancée but we just bought a house. We were not expecting her to have so much trouble being taken seriously by people who work on the house. She works from home so she deals with them most of the time. But numerous times have pest control guys, yard guys, etc. dismiss her concerns as being dramatic and give her the “nothing we can do” until I call.
One guy even told her that the bug problem was because she didn’t keep a clean house which I was shocked.
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#2
Man, I get so mad when I’m given car repair quotes. At my last appointment, they suggested a maintenance service that was like $300+. I decided to call around to another place (another dealership even, just a town over) and get a quote for it and it was half the cost. 😭 Yeah it sucks to pay more, but it also just feels so incredibly disrespectful for someone to try to take advantage of you like this.
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#3
My partner’s boss won’t let him wfh while our baby is home because “men can’t multitask” 🙄
Implicitly low expectations of men means higher expectations of women, which means we have to do more.
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#4
Men, only men, ignore me when I speak. And they say they’re just distracted or whatever, focusing on something else. But when I speak I don’t have their attention. They forget what I say too. This does not happen when they speak to men.
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#5
My husband and I are big baseball fans, especially of our local minor league team, and I’m much more involved than he is. I generally know more about the game and our team’s players than he does.
When he talks baseball, no one questions him, and they give him grace if he mixes something up or just don’t know something.
When I talk baseball, I get quizzed on my knowledge left and right! I have to “prove” that I’m genuinely a fan. A lot of men assume I’m only pretending to like baseball to make myself more appealing to them or to make my husband happy. God forbid a girl have a passion for a sport she played with her dad and grandpa.
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#6
I was a director in a tech field. One of the supervisors (male) who worked for me had set an appointment to interview a potential worker (male), but wasn’t back to the office yet. The guy there for the interview asked if I was the supervisor’s secretary. That kind of thing happened all the time.
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#7
This has been true forever!
40 years ago my brakes suddenly go out. Scary!
The first place I can roll into tell me I have to replace my master cylinder for $350 and I have pretty good 6th sense and even without knowing anything about cars, I knew it was B.S., I say “thanks, gonna get another opinion” and they are like Nnnnooo you can’t drive your car! And I’m like: watch me. I drove like 10mph to the next service station. They look at it and say “oh, your brake fluid is contaminated, we’ll drain and replace it” cost? $10.
I hate people who take advantage of others.
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#8
When men are surprised that I’m funny.
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#9
Being told to smile more. I didn’t even realize how often it happened until I started noticing how rarely men hear that.
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#10
My family doctor not taking me seriously. I was struggling with severe pain, fatigue, anxiety and insomnia. I was so desperate that I asked him if I could get a prescription for sleeping. He declined and gave me an entire speech about how addictive it is and that maybe I should try some mindfulness or whatever and that pain is normal during period and that can impact sleep in such. That’s part of womanhood. Then my husband went to visit him a couple of days later. He got a prescription, no speech or warnings. No questions.
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#11
Men are genuinely only friendly towards me if they want to have s*x with me. They can be nice and kind without wanting s*x, but when they are friendly, I have learned it comes with expectations.
Even men in relationships. I can tell like a bloodhound which men would cheat on their partners.
*not gay men*.
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#12
When we bought our house I put myself as the primary borrower in all the documents since I was the one on top of filling everything out/gathering documents yet in our mortgage account my husband is listed as the primary.
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#13
Recently, I’ve been thinking about the term “working mom”. Forget the fact that all moms, in fact, are working because taking care of a newborn/toddler/child/teen alone is a huge task, apart from household chores.
How come I’ve never heard of a working dad? Does being a dad mean lesser work than being a mom? Why?
The only term that comes to mind indicating a man taking on majority/all of the childcare is “single dad” or “present father”. On the flip side, a “present mother” is just a mother. Do dads in relationship not normally care for their children?
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#14
Oh, I noticed it, and it pissed me off.
My dad was getting my grandparents’ house ready to sell after their deaths, and he chose a local property manager that has no business acting as a realtor. I said, “you need to paint.” My dad said, “we’ll see what Guy thinks.” Guy asked, “paint where?” I point out the line of dirt that all walls get when they’ve had appliances or furniture pressed up against them for 60 years. Guy said, “I don’t think you need to paint. It looks fine.” Dad said, “Great. No paint.” Fast forward a few weeks, Guy says, “You need to paint; I have a contractor you can use.” Dad says, “You’re right. We need to paint,” and hires the contractor!
But wait, it gets better:
The painter sucked. Missed spots. Cut corners. Single coat when there should have been two. Meanwhile, I’m prepping and painting the house I’m about to move into. Dad hired the painter to help move stuff out of his storage unit and into my house for me to use. The painter took one look at my walls and said, “You did better than me!” I said, “oh thanks!” I thought, ‘no s**t.’ But you know, what do I know about painting and prepping a house for sale?
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#15
It’s pretty benign but my partner and I support the same football team; I have been a fan since I was 4 (photo evidence and everything). The amount of times I’ve head something along the lines of “couldn’t have your own opinion/ such a ‘pick me’/only support them because of your boyfriend” is really really grating.
Apparently it’s inconceivable that I, a very feminine presenting woman, could possibly enjoy football, and support the same team throughout my life without the influence of a fella.
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#16
I broke my car key while on a weekend away with my bf and didn’t have a spare, so we had to walk to a nearby garage with the two halves of my key to see if they could copy it. I explained it was my car and what happened, the guy asked my bf loads of questions all about the make, model year etc of the car, all which I answered as it was my car. When we came back an hour later to collect the copied key, I paid and he handed the key to my bf and wished him good luck. I grabbed the key out of his hand and said, it’s not luck he needs to get it’s a drivers licence.. the cheek of him after I doing all the explaining and paying to still assume it musssst be the man’s car 🙄.
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#17
When I worked a corporate job I was given a name badge for a conference that said “assistant” I was a product manager.. I also was asked many times if I was my boss’s assistant when I managed my own portfolio of projects worth 500 million a year 😭.
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#18
We were in the market for a minivan. I did all the research, found the van and we head to the dealership. It is me, my husband, and our two youngest in a double stroller. While I am working out the deal with the finance guy, my husband was strolling around the lot with the kids to keep them entertained. First time the finance guy comes out he gives me a number, I tell him no, I came in here with this number and it is what I can afford. He says “Did you want to check with your husband?” No actually, he has no idea about any of this… I’ve worked in lending for over 20 years.
Second time he comes out with another payment quote, says the same thing. Goes back, and finally comes back with the payment I was comfortable with. Again he says “Do you want to ask your husband?” Bro, if I wanted his opinion he would be in here with me. I told him that if he asked me that one more time I was walking.
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#19
I wanted to buy a car. I did the test drive, filled out the paperwork, organised the loan under my name. My husband was there on the last day when we took the car home and was listed as a second driver on my insurance. Turns out the dealership put the car entirely under his name.
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#20
When I was younger and lived with my parents my dad would constantly talk over me and demean my opinions and feelings, and over time I just stopped trying to make my opinions known. I wasn’t conscious of it however until I moved away and married a man who is a respectful conversationalist and I stopped silencing myself. Then we visited for Christmas and I couldn’t get a word in edgewise when Dad was in the room, even with my husband trying to give me space to talk. Now that I was conscious of what was happening I was furious. It was as clear as day that my dad was more ready to listen to my husband than he was to me.
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#21
My father in law commented that my husband is the “head of the household”. I lead several teams in a large company and earn much more than my father in law ever did, but well….
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#22
Not going to say who
But earlier in my teen years i said i wanted to be sterilized without kids and the person i was talking to about it said
“99% of doctors will refuse you because you dont have kids” i know what they were hinting at because of my “future husband sake”.
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#23
I’m trans (mtf), and I’ve had a front row seat to this, including from coworkers I’ve known for more than a decade. The other day one guy I’ve known since 2017 tried to explain how units of measure work. I’m Senior Director of Master Data…. 🙃 He never pulled that sort of thing before.
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#24
I was an engineer at a tech company that made applicants give a tech talk to the engineers as the final stage of the hiring process. When I walked into the room, dressed in shorts and a t-shirt like every other engineer, and carrying my laptop, he looked at me surprised and said “I thought the audience was supposed to be technical”. It was so wild I didn’t even under what had happened; my teammates got offended on my behalf and I had no idea why. He didn’t get the job.
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#25
When my partner and I moved into our last apartment, I met our upstairs neighbor and got his phone number. I texted him in a group with my male partner. From then on, he never texted me anything house related, only my partner.
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#26
SO is praised more for doing less than me when it comes to our child.
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#27
Working in a kitchen means I hear all sorts of misogynistic s**t. Lots of machismo. And despite being there nearly 6 years, since the place opened, I find myself behind a lot of my coworkers who haven’t been there nearly as long. Maybe I’m just that bad at my job, I would hope it was this instead of just being a woman.
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#28
Being expected to move out of the way when I’m walking towards a man on the street. Covid was the first time I wasn’t ducking and diving around the pavement.
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#29
The rarity of baby changing stations in men’s washrooms while they are in nearly EVERY women’s washroom.
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#30
I joined a church. A church elder was asking me some general questions for their records.
He asked me my husband’s name. I replied that my husband wasn’t joining the church.
He said they just needed a emergency contact person. I provided my husband’s name and phone number.
A week later I received my tithing envelopes and the new church directory.
Both of them listed Mrs. Joe Smith. My name is nowhere to be found.
**fake name for privacy**.
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#31
There was a period of time where I was not working and I didn’t have a vehicle so I decided to keep myself busy by reading books. Book after book, the female characters would make unbelievably brainless decisions. And they were female authors. I saw it countless times. I can’t say it technically crept int *my* life unnoticed, because I’m not typically a reader and thankfully never had that in my life before, but it was an area of life that I had been unaware of before that.
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#32
It is a little dumb & I don‘t know if that counts? But the three major german Haircare-Influencer are men. One has a wig for his videos.
Never questioned that until a friend of mine asked me how i can take his advice for testing Shampoo/Haircare when he has Short Natural hair and mine is super long and bleached?
I just trusted his expertise (he was indeed a hairstylist, but is Not anymore, so when he is testing Products he does so on his wig).
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#33
Always being minimised and likened to a child in my work, my ‘appeal’, my opinions. I’m sick of it.
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#34
Most of them are very noticeable, like for male relatives its okay for them to travel abroad and study, but if i want to, I should have an older family member with me.
I did have some misogynistic views growing up that i hate myself for now, due to other school students around me, i believed women are almost always more dramatic, more superficial, weaker than me(im a girl, but a tomboy who was hated by other girls my age, boys protected me, and i also fought physically with other boys, sometimes girls, i mostly won until some point where bodies change and boys become stronger than girls and real life started to hit) I now avoid hurting any female, and avoid jokingly hitting a guy but im ready to throw punches if a guy is about to be aggressive even if i will get my a*s handed to me
Thankfully my mom and dad were always open minded and believe in equalism compared to any family members(religious family) and I didn’t grow up with much misogyny as my mother has always been active in human and womens rights and built a life and strong career all by herself for her and me.
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#35
Car mechanics. I cannot deal with car mechanics talking down to me especially when in my household I’M the one who knows the most about cars.
Also, I’m a photographer. When I have a man working with me I constantly have to see and hear other people on set refer to the man as “the photographer” and me as either just [my name] or be mistaken for an assistant *even when I have a camera in my hands in front of them*.
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#36
I live in a country where misogyny isn’t usually an issue. I don’t know how but it really isn’t. The only part of my life where I sense it is when I need some part for my car (a little project of mine). I can buy materials for home renovation and be active in the IT sector etc and no problem, but apparently cars are still an undiscovered land for women.
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#37
I always get my step dad to help with car stuff especially getting work done because if they hear I’m a woman it’s immediately more expensive.
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