When we care about someone, we find small ways to make their life easier. We bring home their favorite treat, surprise them with dinner, or take care of the chores they hate. It’s how we show our love.
That’s exactly what this Redditor’s boyfriend thought he was doing when he found a frame for a painting she had cherished for two years but never got around to displaying. A sweet gesture—except it was the wrong size, so he decided to give the artwork a “slight trim” to make it fit.
To say the woman was shocked would be an understatement. Read on to see how she handled it.
The woman was struggling to find a frame for an artwork she cherished
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So her boyfriend came up with a solution—except it turned into a disaster she never saw coming
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Image credits: Ever_More_Art
How to improve communication in your relationship, according to experts
Entering a romantic relationship comes with the expectation that our partner will always treat us with love and kindness. However, we’re all human—we make mistakes, get angry, and sometimes hurt each other without meaning to. Without effective communication, those conflicts can quickly spiral into bigger issues.
“Communication is important because it fosters trust and connection,” Shelley Sommerfeldt, PsyD, a clinical psychologist who specializes in relationships, tells Healthline. “In order to have an open, honest, and vulnerable relationship with our partner, we must be able to freely communicate in a healthy manner.”
To achieve that, we first need to recognize our own problem areas. Some people resort to passive-aggressiveness instead of admitting when something bothers them. Others lash out aggressively when they’re upset. Some avoid conflict altogether, sweeping problems under the rug. None of these approaches lead to healthy discussions.
Instead, it’s important to process your emotions, reflect on them, and bring them up when you’re ready to have a productive conversation. “If we go into a conversation feeling very angry, upset, or too emotional, then the communication tends to become too heated and difficult to find resolution,” says Sommerfeldt.
Timing matters, too. Let your partner know you’d like to talk so you can create the right space for it. This prevents them from feeling caught off guard or ambushed, allowing for a more intentional and constructive exchange.
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Words influence how our message is received. Often, when we try to express concerns, we start by blaming our partner, which can make them defensive. To avoid this, Sommerfeldt suggests using “I” statements instead of accusations. For example, instead of saying, “You’re always focusing on work,” try “I feel hurt when you always focus on work.”
That doesn’t mean you should suppress your frustration or tiptoe around your emotions. Be honest about how you feel, just do it with respect. Trauma and relationship expert Orit Kuang says that can be achieved by knowing the difference between assertiveness and aggression. She explains it with these two statements:
Both versions express anger, but the assertive one clearly communicates feelings and boundaries, while the aggressive approach fuels conflict without resolution.
Finally, every discussion should have an active goal or resolution, even if it requires compromise. Without one, resentment lingers, and issues remain unresolved. Whether it’s about chores, finances, or even something like your partner ruining your artwork—like OP’s boyfriend did—you should both walk away feeling heard and understood. That’s how relationships grow and thrive.
In the replies, the woman shared that she had a heart-to-heart with her boyfriend, and he apologized for what he did
Most readers agreed she wasn’t at fault for her reaction
But some thought she was childish for destroying the piece
A few also felt she was in the wrong for not finding a frame after two years
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